Mirror, mirror

Great write, awesome read. In my humble opinion you my beautiful poet are a bundle of awesomeness and a valued friend
Love and light
Ronxx

Thanks so much for that boost, my dear poet and absolutely lovely friend!! I appreciate you and your supportive encouragement.... always. Sometimes purging the dank darkness is much needed!!

Always a pleasure to share in your thoughts!
All my warmest appreciation and regards,
🌹 - 💙
xo
B

Powerful words that capture perfectly the self perpetuating negative thoughts of one’s self and the struggle to fight such thoughts demonstrated by the irony and conflicting language
Some complex thought provoking stuff
👍👌👌❤️

Ohhh yeah, you definitely get where I was coming from, MM! When reaching down into the depths, to purge that which is needed, is like therapy ... Hoping to send all that ails into written oblivion.  

Thanks for understanding and sharing your thoughts with me.... it means a lot!

Warmest regards,
🌹-💙
B

Mirrors only tell one side of one side.... the front side of the outside.

I would rather the inside of only side that really matters.....

And those who seek less....get what they seek.

The gift of a human confidence, emotional intimacy....this is the greater nakedness.....

That inner beauty It's something that can be achieved (and what I prefer, as well) only after one can put to bed the harshness that is inflicted upon a psyche after being called every version of fat and ugly for as long as I can remember and if that wasn't bad enough, eventually around age 12 or so, 'slut' was added into the mix, too.  

The damage that is done and always there, is absolutely comparable to each scar left from physical abuse... hence, the ongoing struggle.

I concur, it should be about what's inside that matters.... I deeply wish I was taught that.
You've no idea how much....

Thanks for the comments, RT.
It's much appreciated.  
🌹 - B

We can't allow our value to be set by the impotence of others.

They believe themselves to have an advanced aesthetic, but the truth is that their would be arrogance is a prison of rejections and they can only rail in their failure....

Where others lack, you excel in being able to say what you do want and need, what you desire, what causes you to emote. Their performance anxiety cannot hold a candle to your ability to say whole heartedly what they are incapable of.

Your heart is in excellent condition.....they missed the most important part, or rather skipped it for shame of having none at all.

Their loss and your abundance
..

Those are some extremely kind words with astute reminders that the failings of others (that were unfortunately projected upon me), aren't my burdens to carry. I do know my innermost core being and that the beauty there I have and exude, wasn't ruined. My tattered heart remains my own.  
 Yes— It is there, that knowledge, I've described.  
I just take the curiously long way around, of getting my mind to get there...and accept it.  
 
I am so incredibly grateful to get the ability to see through your pov. It helps me a lot, to do so.  
Thanks, again, RT.  
-💙

Remember you are a strong beautiful smart sexy woman.   I want you to be the naughty woman you are meant to be.  You are my naughty woman,  LOL.  Keep on writing.

I aspire to remember that, every. single  day. Thanks for the reminder, Francisco. I'm deeply appreciative for such kind words!

🌹 -

Let’s go on a smashing spree… what do you say B…

Yessss!! I'll bring the baseball bats.... ;)


I knew you'd understand, LilD
Thanks, my dear
🌹 - 💙

hello beautiful Blue this was hard for me to read
that you direct this level of disdain towards yourself hurts my heart
but I understand on many levels we are different kind of people
and those differences can cause us to loathe ourselves
you are beautiful just as you are I don't care what you conceal
I've come to love you❤

You literally had me tearing up, Brenda..... Thank you for seeing what you do and understanding we each fight our own demons the best we can. Your insightfulness is so deeply appreciated.
The love is 100% mutual, lovely lady 🙏🏻

I cherish and adore you sharing your thoughts with me-💕
🌹 - B

May I say graciously and with all respect; your mirror is lying to you. My 20/20 vision sees just the opposite. Even if I were blind I'd disagree with your mirror. However, I must say as usual a great poem my Princess. Hugs and peace, xoxoxo, Oral

Your kindness touches me and warms my heart, Oral. Thanks for seeing me how I love and worked so hard to be seen. It's definitely cherished and very much appreciated... Sincerely. I know it's not about the physical, it's about how a heart sees another heart ♥

I see you, too.

Much love, dear poet 🙏🏻
🌹 - 💙
xo
B

Bravo! 1001 % true. You are Beautiful Inside and Out. xoxox Oral

-💙

[raises hand]

I can haz smashing spree with you?  :)))

[is allowed on smashing spree.]

[pulls out a grenade then a bazooka]

:)))

B, I just...  am in constant admiration
for your courage and strength.

I think you have a certain tough elegance about you, that I have always very much appreciated.

It is sometimes difficult to understand,
the methodologies of our parents.

I was watching this movie...  "Instructions Not Included"

This person's dad throws him off a cliff at the age of 6,
as well as other similar ordeals, in order to make him strong and rid him of fear, but he ended up being sort of...

Wired for fear..."

Well...

It reminded me of my dad.

His dad treated him extremely harshly.

He put him through some very harsh ordeals...  and would say to him:

"You are the oldest and you need to be strong."

Although different than my grandfather,
my dad had ordeals for me, also...

He used to tell me:

"I didn't always understand why your grandfather did
what he did, but he was my dad.

One day you will have children and you will develop your own methods."

I grew up way different than everyone else.  For better or worse.

(I know our situations are totally unique
I guess you just made me think of these things.)

You are...

Profoundly beautiful on the inside and on the outside.

You're TOTALLY invited!!
We'll absolutely make it a fabulous party!!
Protective eye gear and various smashing options aplenty!!! hahaha.... Ohh how refreshing!
They have these rooms where you can 'rent' time to go into various themed options like a room that has a bunch of glass or other various breakables, You dress in protective gear this rental place offers and then you get to destroy anything and everything in there with whatever tools they've laid out for you!! It's like a stress reliever....

https://www.smashroomoftampa.com/

Ohhh HELL yeah!! heh heh heh 😈
I think I should book myself an appointment!!
;p


Thanks for sharing your own personal struggles, C. I know we're all different with different experiences that help to mold us into who we ultimately end up being, but we also have free will;  to change that which we know is only doing us harm.... It means a lot to me that you understand this thinking of mine..... my mindset.  

Your kind words really hit me in the very best way,
I needed that, my friend 🙏🏻

All my warmest and deepest appreciations!
🌹 - 💙
B

Dear BV,

Seems we bought the same mirror. I’m returning mine. I hope you kept your receipt and will consider returning yours. I’m rejecting every word of this poem, whilst eloquently written, none of it’s true as regards you and your presentation to the world. I’m going shopping now. Get in the car, dammit! 😘
H🌷

Hey there, Honoria :)
I'm there for the shopping 🛒 Absolutely!!  👍🏻  
Yeah, that mirror has totally been destroyed and I slowly, day by day, restore my personal, much healthier pov. This was a purging of thoughts that still sometimes creep in to rear their ugly head!  

Your kindness is like a soothing balm as is any call to arms that requires shopping!!!  

I deeply appreciate you and love how you see me, my dear lady. I cherish that you relate to my dank darkness with humor and total truth.  

I'm so so sincerely grateful and truly glad you're here.  

All my warmest - 💙  
🌹B

The struggle between our thoughts and mind is a common sense that we all have to go through the process of trying to understand that we have to keep seeking and searching for answers to the deepest questions for we are reminded by the mirror reflection looking back at us 🙏👊🦋

Finding ones own truth despite any adversities from the past is definitely paramount! Your wise sage words are deeply appreciated and tshrbutu heart, my lovely friend 🙏🏻
Thanks so much for generous list add and for sharing your thoughts with me.... It means so much to me!

Much love and respect, dear Stoney
🌹 - 💙
B

You are very welcome dear poetess and friend 🙏👊🦋

You pack a million things in there.  But as you well know, I prefer to go short and to the point.  Self-esteem is very difficult to achieve as we are hit hard at every turn of the road.  Takes years, decades to learn who we are and to accept ourselves as who we are.  I like what the very little i know of you.       Kisses, Robert.

Indeed, it's a lifelong learning curve-- to love one's self and to keep confidence and esteem at healthy levels. For me, it hinged mostly on removing the sad, learned behaviors that seemed to automatically block that ability.  


I'm glad you've gotten glimpses you enjoyed!!
Thanks for taking the time to share that with me, Robert  
🌹 - B

So moving Love this!

Awww... I thank you for reading and thinking so.

It's lovely to meet you, Trent :)
I hope you are enjoying your time here with us.
Welcome.

It's always a pleasure seeing new faces, you're sincerely welcome here... ✨

🌹 - B

Awe thanks i love this site i stumble upon the most beautiful pieces here im excited to read more of your stuff i really like what i have read so far :)

That's great to hear! There's so much interesting reading from some truly talented poets/poetess' ... Soak it up!


Hope to see you next time ;p
🌹 - B

I enjoyed and gave you a like- thumbs up! I would give you a helpful comment, however, everyone appears to appreciate you, and so my opinion is to simply continue with your style  and strength. I appreciate what you have accomplished and enjoy your work.

Your 👍🏻 'like' is much appreciated, Archie.
It's nice just to see you visit! Thanks for the lovely kind words of encouragement and support, it means a lot to me that you occasionally read and find a bit of enjoyment within my writing.

Thanks for taking the time out to share your thoughts with me Archie! I always enjoy what you have to say!  
🌹 —B

It doesn't matter how we get here, just get here (I too have[had] less than stellar parents).
One of the best things about maturity is coming to terms with who we were, who we are, and who yet do we want to be.  
Step one, smash mirror.  
Step two, tell yourself how Goddamn incredible you are.  Every day.  Live it.  You will indeed become it.   Trust it.
I know so.

As for your write, incredible.  I've noticed a change in your depth of skill.  It's subtle, but it's there.  It's talent, shining.

It really is the best part about aging, finally being able to let the damages and deep anguish of the past... Go.  .... Processing, reconciling, easing my own heavy burden by finally leaving all that pain at the feet of those who originally inflicted it. Coming to terms with and understanding their flaws, not as a form of forgiveness but as an awareness of just how vicious the circles of generational mistreatment are and how it needs to end with someone!

I am blown away by your blushworthy kind words in regards to my potential growth... I am beyond grateful you're able to see the subtlety!

I truly adore your visits, S... and look forward to them every time I log on!
Thanks for seeing me.

🌹 - 💙
xo
B

It isn't potential growth.  It's definite growth.  Your progress is happening, not merely hoped for.
Believe in you.  I do.  

xoxo 💙

Very true.... They're also a reminder (I've learned after years of punishing myself) to not let that reflection be the driving force of true happiness.... To let go of the darknesses of the past and what was hammered into my psyche during my childhood; to love myself from the inside out. It's a long lesson learned, one that I still sometimes falter at...I guess I'll always be a work in progress,  
I suppose!... ;)  
 
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with me, Jay... I deeply appreciate you taking the time!  
🌹 - 💙  
B

Powerful revelation.  But I can relate. I plead with friends not to show me photos of myself and I shudder if I see myself in a mirror (incidentally, the profile photo I use here was taken about ten years ago and even then I regarded myself as "ugly" and believed the photo depicted me as a failure).

I 110% feel and empathize with your struggle, Lawrence!! You're hardly ugly, even if the pic is ten years old!! I appreciate your feedback and openness, it was wonderfully kind of you to share that truth with me.

Thanks so much for the frankness and for taking the time to leave your thoughts.

🌹 -💙
B

Negativity can sometimes be refocused into something beautiful if one thinks outside the box.

Nicely put, CS!
Thanks for that different pov, much obliged
🌹 - 💙
B

I wish I could paint that 3rd stanza.  You are certainly a weaver of words.

LJ

Wow! That was an incredibly kind and thoughtful comment Lj.
I'm deeply appreciative, dear lady ✨


Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I am always happy to see you on my page 🦋

Be well and be safe out there 🌹
💙 - B

Hugs Blue.

Your mirror needs a new eye prescription, it is not seeing clearly.  You are not the first lady to disdain the mirror, the pressures you put on yourself.  You look fabulous and the mirror only reflects the exterior, which is lovely terrain. But your insides appear to be pretty awesome too. As usual a masterful job of sharing your thought and feelsing through words.

Hey there, Leo
Thanks for stopping by and for sharing your thoughts on how you see me, fully inside and out. I humbly thank you for such kind words, my friend. 🙏🏻 This piece is snapshot of how brutal my inner monologue can be, sometimes. I have learned a lot over the years on how to combat bs thoughts like these. I am not perfect, in my healing journey but I know where to leave most of harshest hurts, allowing for a much happier and healthy mindset. Sometimes, sharing the deep scars, is also a a bit of therapy, too!

I very much appreciate you, Leo. Your investigative skills (you, seeing me for me) have really come in handy!!! 👍🏻 🕵🏻 💙

Much love and happiness sent your way ✨ 💫 ✨
🌹 - B

It's such a relatable subject, but you expressed it so eloquently with sincerity and vulnerability. Too often are we consumed by what's on the outside when the confidence and self acceptance really sprout from within.

Thank you for sharing.

It's the nature of society, that we tend covet with the eyes and not the mind or soul. I remember reading this study (yes, there are actually various and calculated studies for the following!) that proved how 'beautiful people' men and women both, who are considered more attractive, actually get better schooling, better grades, get paid more, and have better jobs than those less fortunate in the looks department and who aren't considered as such. That's crazy, yet true. Not that I give a flying f_ck about the nature of human beings, I walk my own path and I've always just been on a quest to restore my own self worth and confidence. However, that information really says a lot and left an impact on me, even though I wish it didn't... lol...

I'm truly glad for your thoughtful comments, for the generous list add and your understanding of where I was coming from, my friend. It really motivates me and inspires.

It's always a treat, seeing you!
🌹 - 💙
B