Just dance

Venting is healing, sweet dancer. And remember, if it wasn't for the darkness, you'd never see the stars.

Thanks Averagejoe, I did not really feel like it was venting when I was writing it. For me, it is the question of when someone you love wants to change you to alleviate their own concerns and for their own reasons without considering what you need, at what point do you decide that things are not working for either of you.

"if it wasn't for the darkness, you'd never see the stars." I love that. :)

Sometimes it's hard to tell how "personal" a write is. That and I'm a lousy gueser! But still enjoyed it for all my failings :D

I fully understand your interpretation and it is definitely one way to read it. So you are not wrong at all in it, please don't think that. I am just explaining my perspective. :)

We're good. Just kidding with you. :)

Bravissima, Kristina! I love the stream of consciousness in the piece. Each thought is genuine and felt. The imagery of the bare walls can be taken as a sad, lonely reminder of what once was or an exciting , tabula rasa, feeling of what new things are to come. This passage, "Don't cry because you won't see the stars" is a poignant reminder of the universe of experiences and feeling we would miss if we dwell on loss. And there is so much self-affirming logic in this passage, "It's just him, it's just you
So if you are not together, you are still here." Wonderful spill 😘

Thanks GW, on point as always. When trying to blame or place fault it is rarely a simple equation. Obviously it is natural to think we are right but I always try to see things from the other perspective but sometimes the differences cannot be resolved. I have things in my life that are important so I cannot just give up everything; work, helping my Mom, even taking a break by going on DUP, fitness, etc. To many times there is the blame game to force the other person to change and we need to acknowledge that there are times when taking a break or moving on is the only answer. That is not something I say lightly as I am the type to never give up but that is exactly why I need to write something like this.    
   
Thanks for your beautiful comment.  ❤

That you don't  take things lightly and are concerned for other's points of view and feelings is a beautiful thing. That said, I am happy that you treat yourself with the same compassion and that you have the courage to continue working towards your aspirations.

He's playing a dangerous game. I surmise you could go out, "... put your right foot in, Your right foot out,
Right foot in, Then you shake it all about.."  You'll end up with a new partner, and he'll be doing the hokey pokey in front of the mirror alone.

Good to vent and reflect, you'll know what to do. Your piece drips with emotion and reflection and a tree doesn't grow without a few drips.

Thanks Davinci. I really appreciate your comment and thoughts. I think I covered a lot of my response above in regards to my thoughts.  ❤

Really expressive and powerful writing here, Kristina ❤️

Don't ever let anyone make feel guilty for who you are. Sometimes we need a little 'selfish' time. Putting yourself first means being as kind to yourself as you are to others. It means taking care of yourself, so you can be more productive and organised and a better person in general. It means just loving yourself a little more and thats not selfish, its necessary. We all need that, ya' know 😊. You know yourself and your needs better than anyone else. You need to do what is best for you ❤️

Pen on, my friend... I always look forward to what you will come up with next 😉

I think you are just trying to shut me up with your comments because I am lost for words. Knowing that you actually look forward to something from me is just amazing.

Thank you for your encouraging words. It means a lot to me because whether it is relationship or work or anything I have tendency to put aside my needs. It is not always a bad thing because I get joy out of making others happy but I tend to lose balance very quickly. ❤️

beautiful Kristina you are a very soulful and accomplished writer it takes guts to show your vulnerability
I've had this type of fear of losing a man in my life
I love the positive affirmation it's so wonderful
I hope you have all that life has to offer...

great write ❤

Apparently I am really bad at responding to comments because I never know what to say especially from someone I already respect so much just from your writing. It is a really beautiful comment and although I don't feel like an accomplished writer by any means to hear it from you is truly amazing for me. Thank you. ❤

Dear K,

I very much appreciated how you talked your way through the emotions and found the balance within yourself to see outside the crux of the disagreement. Maintaining your self worth and not bending yourself like a pretzel to accommodate someone elses idea of who they think you should be in order to be loved by them takes strength of mind and character. I think your writing out your thoughts like this is fabulous affirmation of valuing who you are. Putting it on paper is a helpful way to see a bit more clearly what may have transpired and just the right ticket of a pep talk for yourself. I sure wish I’d do this. My go to is shopping. It’s a release but it lacks the black and white organization of a valuable self appreciation love hug. Oh to be so wise and penned my emotions instead of spend them...
Great write and I truly hope the very very best for you in your relationship with this person. H🌷  

Sorry for the late reply. I had to do some things for my Mom today. I always love seeing your comments, You have such great feedback. It can be pretty chaotic in my head so I have found that writing does help me sometimes. I really wish the absolute very best for you also, so I hope you are not shopping lately unless it is because you really want to. :) ❤️

This has such a lovely, honest flow of emotion to it. I'm happy to leave off my reading here. 💖🙏

Thanks Daniel, honest flow of emotion - that's me, even if it flows to much sometimes.  💖

Love yourself... life is to short.
You’ll find a love that’s true for you...
Until then just dance

Ps. I talk to myself also

Thanks buddydog for the beautiful sentiment.

P.S. good, I am not the only one and now I know I am in good company. 💖

Thanks Sky, I appreciate your detailed comment and wisdom so much. Sometimes we stay in unhappiness for bad reasons. I am not ready to give up yet but I know some things need to change. ❤️

And I wish the very best for you also. :)

Hi, Kristina  
 
Having searched for your poem with differentiated texts, I landed in the lap of a monologue dance.  It's really dialogue, except that I am hearing only the pro-life side of the exchange, which creates its own internal dialogue with the self.  Your visual articulations make clear your whispers, your shouts, and your tongue-in-cheek expressions.  
 
The opening stanza comes to terms with the situation as it stands -- time to face reality: without him/walking alone/empty apartment/many hurt feelings/feeling guilty.  
 
But the dance (bold emphasis yours) is positive action.  "Dance like it's the last time" and "Just Dance like there is no tomorrow" seems to relegate to life and survival the ability to manipulate your body creatively when there is nothing left to do, nowhere left to go.  Dance then becomes more than an aversion; it is positive diversion.  
 
In the situation, dance is oxymoronic in the sense that pain does not usually wear dancing shoes.  When one dances, one brings the other hemisphere of the brain into functional operation, which is divergent thinking.  I am understanding "Don't cry because you won't see the stars" as meaning that one should not cloud one's vision with tears and so prevent oneself from seeing the silver lining.  
 
In truth, as the dance is to the pain (a viable escape), so is the poem to the troubled mind.  One is a microcosm of the other, starting at either end.  For me personally, I am more inclined to accept the dance as the cameo and the poem as the epiphany.  Whichever way one takes it, however, here is literary and metaphoric relief for a hard-knock life.  
 
NB I believe your second-person voice has become a bit entangled in first-person place in the expression, "I'll find someone and less stress."  I think this might be just an error because the poetic voice is not rendered as I, me, I'll, etc. from the perspective of this poem.  
 
All things considered, this is beautiful writing from a beautiful, practical soul.  
 
Just dance!  
 
Sincerely  
 
cab

Thank you so much for the detailed feedback and interpretation. You have summarized things so perfectly that I do not have a lot to add. I really appreciate how you have delved into the deeper meaning regarding things such as Dance which on the surface seems like a simple action and escape but in reality there is much more to it as you have so beautifully described. And again you interpreted the meaning of 'don't cry...' perfectly in regards to looking past the pain and problems to find that silver lining. And yet again, the dance as the cameo and the poem as the epiphany more accurately describes my thoughts.

I really appreciate your keen eye and literary intellect in identifying the discrepancy regarding first and second person miss-alignment. That is something that I do sometimes, both with voice and tense so I need to be more conscious of it.

Thank you so much for the compliment. I know your keen observation will help in the future.

Sincerely, Kristina.