to err is human, to rise from the ashes is clawing yourself back

Doc Martens are cool

lol.. thanks, C
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xo

Want a laugh.... it’s my wedding anniversary tomorrow. And I also wore white Doc Martens under my wedding dress. 😂 I was the comfiest bride evahhhh.

It takes strength to know yourself truly and to reclaim your life. I hope you are happy. That’s all one can truly ever ask from life.

Thank you for sharing.

-M

Wow, Missy... those are some uncanny similarities! My wedding date was a tribute to my grandparents, it was their wedding anniversary. Plus, I wanted a winter wedding or as 'winter' as FL gets...  

I'm sure your union is a forever kind and I send nothing but happiness and joy your way :)  

I 100% agree the Dr Martens were an inspirational choice and total comfort in all things that made almost every other girl take their shoes off before the end of the night! 😂 I love roses, I mean it's just an obsession and there were roses that were etched along the side of each boot. I hate white tho... I live mostly in black, every day. So after the divorce I went online to see if any other bride in my area wanted to wear Docs for their wedding  
 (I'd only worn them that one night) and I found someone in my city who fell in love with them and was willing to spend almost as much as I bought them for, I felt they needed better juju, so I donated them to her instead and wished her well. It was like a cleansing.... haha 😂.  

I'm MUCH healthier, happier and more in touch with myself than ever before. It's still a process, but all in all, a zillion times better in head and heart space.  
Ty for reading and your thoughtful remarks...  
I'm so appreciative 🙏  
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xo
B  

You looked amazing
Brave write from my brave friend and beautiful poetess
It takes a brave girl to open and look inside
You are a legend my hero
Love and light
Ron
Absolutely love the pic
Xxx

hahaha 😂
Ty my salty sweetheart! I'm so glad you think so
It's my boots that I love so much, that really make me happy to see... lol.. I appreciate you reading, the list add and your kind words, Ron
You are far too kind!
Much love,
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xoxo

Omg.... I just died!!!!
Laughing. My. Ass. Off.
😂 😂🤣😅😅🤣😆
💀 ☠️⚰️⚱️☠️💀

I adore you, Wilber
Much much love
from across the pond, my friend.
🇺🇸 💙 🇬🇧
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xo
B

lost on what Doc Martens are from what I see is some kind of under garment that's okay any back to the frog it said a frog will jump out of boiling water if you start and heat slow he just stay not sure of that,  
sounds like that it was a bit of hell in the past
nice write
   look up doc martens shoes

lol... Dr Martens are the type of boots I'm wearing.
Exactly, correct, DC
It's that syndrome that I kind of found myself in
Not being totally aware of my situation, either intentionally  or unintentionally.... it still harkens a bit of a sting... but more out of missed time, than pain.

I thank you for reading and your comments, DC
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B

Nice that you have (re)discovered yourself at last.  Not an easy journey.

still working on it... thank you so much for reading, Robert
I really appreciate it
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xo

Rising from ashes can be chilling. Good work.

It's true, it can... as well as empowering ;)  
Ty so much for reading, A  
- appreciate your comments.  
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xo

We are human and love has no guarantee.  When you find the right person love is a wonderful beautiful thing.  Keep on writing, you got my vote.

Your words are very wise, Francisco
Ty for reading and sharing
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I was never more myself until the day I decided I wantrd to be free 😂 12 years together for me 4-19 is the day we said I do and 8 years later 5-10 we said fuck you. We've never spoken again.
I dig the boots. My friend wore white converse and all the brides maids wore tye dye converse.

Solidarity in our much happier existences post divorce!!
Cheers 🍻 🍻!!
Ty for reading and sharing, nik.. it's inspiring and I'm uplifted. I dig the story of your friend and her Chuck's... those are my other go to's for footwear, period. I'm even fancy and have a few glitter ones in silver and red, too... I love converse!!
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😂
Ty for your visit ;)
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B

Lovely pic and felt write ... To be free ... 7 years of marriage under the same roof ... Knew her since I was 13 as a friend of a friend ... She actually thought after tearing our (kids) lives apart, that separating was a strategy on her part to get me to want her again(met my greeneyes at this point) and stunned when I told her I never wanted to be with her ... I have a court order barring contact without state police supervision ... And like it that way ... Baggage aside ... Lovely and powerful write ... Bless and much love ... .

Well, damn... that's so very unfortunate (to put it mildly) FeNyX. I'm very sorry that's how it had to be in the end, with your situation. At least it's at a place that's within a control, which should allow for less stress inducing.... My heart aches for you and yours. My relationship demise wasn't as noteworthy with authorities involved but just as wickedly and blistering unjust (and so sad.)
I thank so much for your open-ness and your share with me, I truly appreciate it and I thank you for reading and your thoughtful supportive kind words.  
Much love and respect,
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xo
B

Many people look at an artist like Don Henley and find him too sanctimonious and excessively preachy. For me the song "My Thanksgiving" provides so much truth: "It's too long we've been living these unexamined lives." Thank you for allowing us to look a bit into what you have gone through and the wisdom you have found.

I like that Henley song... good choice JM.
I really enjoyed your insightful remarks and your kind words of support. It's that openness that usually freaks me out, that I am trying to apply and live fearlessly on the page...I keep having a certain poet's words run through my head and I guess it's having an affect. Thank you so much for visiting... please don't be a stranger ;)
Much love,
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xo
B

Dear BV,

I’d just be copy catting everyone else’s comments of praise on the poem itself and standing ovation for the chutzpah in getting out of a situation that doesn’t spotlight you as the ray of sunshine you are. I don’t imagine the dissolution of a marriage is easy but the catharsis afterward must surely be a grand Amen! I only wish I could share as eloquently as you do. If this was my poem my self growth and acceptance would have included the salute of my middle finger. 😉 H🌷

Hee hee hee....  
It did include my middle 🖕🏻 finger for years and years... then it dawned on me that's precious energy of My Own that I'm willingly giving him, STILL. So, I became slightly more Zen (only a smidge) to learn how to release that ill will. I can and am successful on most days. Only on rare occasions, when the stark truth of all the 'forever painful no matter how many years go by, why's' hit me, do I want to completely fuck him up with more than just the finger.... 😂. Luckily for me, that need happens less and less these days...  
Namaste 🙏 (wink*)  
 
I thank you for reading, your lovely kind words and your generous list add. I'm so grateful for you, my dear.  
Much love,  
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xoxo  
B

I think happily ever after isn't reality. At least when it comes to my relationship; I been through hell with that person, we put each other through hell. But I think what made both of us stay is that we are truly best friends.

Not sure how into Canadian rappers you are lol. But this poem reminded me of this song.

https://youtu.be/sAi04TpNFJw

Ohh my, DC..
I seem to have overlooked your comments...
Many apologies 🙏
I used to agree with that notion of happily ever after, too. To me it's what you said, it's more about the connection between two people and their bond. That's what I believe determines if they can go a distance. I also believe that there IS SOMEONE out there for everyone... Damn girly romantic notion, I know... yet I do... hahaha 😂
Ty for sharing the video... I wasn't familiar but I totally dug it.
Much love and respect,
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xoxo
B

How strange!
This would have been our twelfth anniversary if we had not got divorced in January and if they were still alive my mum and dads 71st
The 17th of February was a remarkable date
Richard

Mine was the 16th but still very close, indeed.
Ty for reading, Richard
I'm extremely grateful and appreciative 🙏
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xo

WOW and double WOW! A breathtaking and beautiful bride picture and a self-releasing poem for the ages. You are beyond words, an inspiration my beautiful Princess and master poet. Hugs, kisss, and peace.

Thank you, Oral
Your kindness knows no bounds and I'm very grateful for your visits, kind words and supportive encouragement.
Hugs and kisses your way, too.
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xoxo

I’ve been married once and it left enough of a sour taste in my mouth that I’ve never done it again (and probably never will). Married 7 years, but had to put up with fairly regular contact for 11 more. The first time he messaged me after our son turned 18 I told him to fuck off. The most glorious day of my life. It’s good to be able to rise up from the ashes and reclaim our true selves. Terrific and very relatable piece.  

P.s. you are cute as you can be. I dig the boots.

Ohhh Eerie, I 100% agree with you... sometimes it just takes longer to collect yourself from the ashes! What I left out of this piece was the fact that my ex and I were together almost 8 years before we got married and had lived with each other for almost 7. It was a really long time to figure it out... lol. I thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me, you definitely understand where I pulled my inspiration fromm, that's for sure.
Ty for your compliment, too .. I did fucking love those boots!! hahaha 😂
Much love and respect,
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xoxo
Susan

Your words are a lovely salve and soothing to read, RiAN. Ty so much for your honesty and thoughtfulness .

I didn't really know how attracted to a particular "type" I was until after many many years of self reflection and connecting the dots. Luckily my marriage wasn't physically abusive (that was a prior bad relationship experience when I was barely in my twenties) but the scars I carry from the emotional /verbal abuse .... to me, are as devastating. Plus, we were together and lived with each for close to 8 years before we got married.... it's a long time to get lost in a particular 'wilderness'.... indeed....

I'm so thankful for your survival and my heart expands in joy for you and your daily continued journey...
I appreciate your time and visit and look forward to seeing you as often as possible 🙆🏻‍♀️ ☺
Much love and all good tidings, ;)
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B

Self reflective pieces always offer so much without going into the details. You clawed your way back and now have awesome wings to spread and fly. Your poetry has been exemplary of that Phoenix philosophy.

Ty so much for saying what you have, Walter.
Your thoughtful comments aren't lost on me nor taken for granted. I so appreciate your time and visit....
Much love,
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xo

Yeah the Doc Martens are cool. You look beautiful in your dress. I am glsd that you finally freed yourself from a bad marriage. I love this passage,
"a reminder
that love is possible
and that i now love myself who"
I chuckled at your hiccup line.
Bravissima sweer BB 🐻💋🐻💋🐻

Thank you for reading, BB. I enjoyed that line as well ☺ It's been a long time and I am still on a path forward! Thank you for the compliment and your lovely support.. It means a lot :)
Much love and respect,
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xo

Loving the middle fingers in this thread.

You know...  Earlier this evening a friend
was telling me how...

She sent a middle finger emoji (which is one of my favorites)
to this dude she's was seeing...

And he said she was disrespectful and that they should take some time off.

I was so fucking proud!

Damn B...

I just...  Deeply admire your fearlessness on the page...  

Makes me want to join you...

I guess I am just crazy like that...

Come on in, the water is fine!!!

Lol...

Thank you for seeing my little attempt and true humanity on the page, dear friend 🙏
It's an ongoing struggle today be willingly that open... I think it'll go through "well, fuck it!" phases
Where it doesn't seem so brutal to find so and then other times, it's observational poetry/writing time... Haha.

Sounds like that friend of yours saved herself some heartache in the end.... If some dude is disrespected by 🖕🏻 than he's really barking up the wrong tree!!... Fucking hell! ;p

You're always such a treat to have visit.
Anytime, my dear... anytime!!

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B
Xo