Dodging a bullet

true wisdom beautiful Teri...

love Brenda 🌹

Thank you, my Lady.

Hope the new year has been and continues to be your best ever.

Teri

Spot on poetess. I find when life has me in a negative frame of mind, it often points to a deeper truth; lessons to be faced. Approaching them with humility and adjusting accordingly yields the greatest growth.

A very good practice, my friend. It is well known that becoming angry or frustrated is detrimental to one's health, and mental state, as well as having no affect on the person or subject matter at hand.
Always better to analyze, rationalize and perhaps even justify another's actions before you penalize yourself.

Thanks for visiting and commenting, Audrey.

Exactly, Teri.  If someone is spiteful and bitter over a breakup, they are upset because the other person isn't servicing their wants any longer.  Love is letting go; it's wanting what's best for the other person; it's finding peace in the acceptance that people have the right to choose for themselves what it is ( and who ) they want in order to be happy.

What you have said, though in most cases is true, I wrote the piece, as pondering another perspective as well.
Even if the relationship was more selfish than true love, by either or both, the fact the breakup occurred, regardless of the reason, each person can consider themselves fortunate in the long term. As I'm sure you're already aware, true serenity can happen only after we learn we can only control ourselves, thus the reason for wording the question as I did.

Thank you Ahavati for taking your time to visit and comment.

Well said Teri. It is ultimately alright for us to experience the darkest of emotions, as all things experienced lead toward inevitable transformation. We weep and rage and are spent only to emerge on the other end changed, or we rotate through the repeated lessons until we've had our fill of them.

I have young and older friends I've made here, other writer sites, chat sites and elsewhere, and I find, naturally, the greatest propensity for unreasonable emotion and arrogance resides with the young. I don't correct them, don't disabuse them of their moment of rage, sorrow or certainty. They will learn, in the fullness of time, as I have and am, as we all do. A bit of silence, a bit of levity, and a dash of compassion, be it a display of affection, admiration or gratitude. Subtly applied. These storms subside.

Daniel

Hello, my friend

You have expressed exactly the reason for this piece, as it is an attempt to delicately introduce a different perspective for some to ponder and perhaps learn from. That you took the time to expand further is truly appreciated, and it is of no surprise to read your well thought out comment.

Thank you, Daniel, for the wisdom you offer.

Teri  

*hugs* Just left a nice dinner with friends. Nice warmth from a couple glasses or red. Hope you are well. :)

Bang!!

shot. Teri.

Wisdom pure, sheer wisdom.

Thank you, brother

Just some triggered thoughts while stalking the site.

Very true. When a relationship begins to become detrimental to your health, sometimes it's better to let them go. Thanks the sharing this!

I truly believe both will be better for the parting once the consequences of staying together are realized.

Thank you NB for the visit and comment.

Teri

No problem, Teri. I hope you will extend the same courtesy :)

sure you've learned to handle that by now, if forgotten, I can send directions.

Sometimes it's a blessing in disguise.  Very true words....xo

Indeed it can, and in most situations is. Discovering what may be hidden personality traits early in a relationship can save much heartache later.

Thanks for stopping by Mysteria27.

Good advice.

Food for thought.

Takes time to realise but it’s so very true Teri

So sad that one must live life to learn life's lessons. It would be much less painful if it were intuitive.


Truly wishing you well, Sophie

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