The Sizzling Sex Secrets in Sex Steps Part 2 of 2

The Sizzling Sex Secrets in Sex Steps
Part 2 of 2

Make Your Own Movie

Sizzling sex for one person may be a lovely lady sitting in a chair: her legs duct-taped to each chair leg; eyes blindfolded; not knowing when a cock might pierce her open lips; nipples fully erect and breathing like she's just run a marathon as her pussy is ravaged by a warm, wet tongue. But enough about my preferences. Sizzling sex for someone else might be a candle-lit dinner followed by warm, passionate missionary position on the bed for 15 minutes.

That is for you and your partner to decide as long as, you are in-synch. If she longing to be bent over the couched and stuffed like a baked potato, and your idea of sexual excitement is to keep the lights on, you may have a dilemma. That's where communication and compatibility come’s together.

But the worst thing you can do is to compare your sex life to someone else's. It creates nothing but dissatisfaction. I have always felt that when it comes to money, sex and, well, more sex, that the guideposts you should use are your own desires, not someone else's stories. "I came five times, she licked my asshole for a half hour, I ate strawberries out of her pussy until she screamed my name over and over "(well, that one I believe).
I've heard an awful lot of stories about great sex, but the ones I believe the most are my own.

Don't believe that everyone but you are having the great sex. They are not. But you can this is the best way.
Pick the Right Time and Place


When I was living with my girlfriend in college, the right time and place was anywhere and everywhere in the apartment. For many people, things are different.

I promise you, if you expect great sex right after the kids finally go to bed, the laundry is folded and your wife falls on the bed, exhausted, or when your husband gets home after a day of negotiating for Middle-East peace...forget it. And have a heart. You both have needs, but the wrong time and place is not the right way to go about it.

Let me digress for a moment. Sometimes you want a long, leisurely, passionate sexual experience. Sometimes you just want to fuck and cum. If you both tired but frisky, settle for the slam and sleep. But not all the time, and do not expect it to suffice for long.

Let me explain. A quick fuck is a great way to end an evening and a wonderful release. I love it. But it is, like eating an appetizer for me. Within a few days, I had better get a meal, or I am going to become frustrated and believe me, it is not pretty. What is a meal? Alright, since you asked. It is kissing, rubbing and holding. It is titty play and having my cock rubbed. Spreading her legs and doing my favorite thing – using my tongue like a biomedical exploratory instrument, leading to a shaking, shuddering orgasm. It is like having my cock licked, the head sucked, and my balls attended to. It is fucking in at least two or three positions and, if you are lucky and the stars are aligned, maybe a little. anal. There it is.

I can assure you that this is not going to be in the program after a day of hard work and a night of cooking, cleanup and childcare. Therefore, the more you want good sex, the more arranging you are going to have to do. Drop the kids off at Grandma's, go home and rock the house. Get a baby-sitter and get away for a day. You might have to be creative.

We used to have an arrangement with another young couple in the neighborhood. They pick up our kids and go for ice cream or to the mall for an hour or two. In the meantime, we have a champagne and vibrator party. When they got back, they drop off their kids and we take them and our children to a movie or park for a while. They go home, have a cocktail and fuck like...well, one can only imagine – she way pretty.

You can see what I mean. Make plans and get creative, and you can have that full-course meal sex. And you've got to make that time if you want a great sex life.
Take Care of #1


You may have heard, this one before, but not from me. Because when I say take care of number one, I am talking about your lover. Who else would I mean?

But a lot of lovers make sure their needs are taken care of first, and these are the ones who don't deserve a return engagement.

For guys this means, primarily, take your time! Why is it that after five minutes of kissing you are ready to get your cock sucked? I talk to my mechanic longer than that when he is changing my oil for Pete's sake. I am not saying there are not, times when you are both tired and want to get down to business, but make this the exception, not the rule. Do you want to be thought of as a good lover? Then here' what you've got to do:
1 - Take your time. Kiss her tenderly, rub her neck, her shoulders, her breasts, and move down to her lower back. There's not a lady in the world that doesn't love to be caressed.
2 - Give her the oral sex of her life. Make sure she comes at least once before you even think of your own pleasure. Lick her clit and find her G-spot – her moans will be your reward.
3 - When she is sucking your cock, tell her how good it feels, give her encouragement.
4 - Do not, I repeat, DO NOT cum too quick. Take it slow, stop every now and then when you feel you're going to cum – changing positions is a natural way to do this – but give her at least a 10 to 15 minute ride on your bony express.
5 - When you finally do cum, be a gentleman, and be tender. Get her a tissue first if there is anything to wipe off. Kiss her and tell her how nice it was. Be honest.

Ladies: Do you want to please your man? A couple of tricks:
6 - Take care of him. Tell him things like, "baby, you make me want you so much." We all like to be mentally – and physically – stroked.
7 - Worship his cock. Lick it, look him in the eyes while you stroke it. Moan your approval when you suck it, rub his wet cock all over your face. Place it between your tits and titty fuck him, looking him in the eyes and whisper, "I'm going to take good care of your cock baby. You're going to cum for me...more than once." It is beyond hot knowing she wants your cock badly and wants to make sure you cum over and over.
8 - Moan like a porn star when he goes down on you. It is the greatest motivation and eventually becomes second nature – helping you get into it even more.

Well there you have it, six steps towards making your sex life all it can be. Are these the only six steps? I doubt it, and you may be doing some or all, of these things right now. I hope you are, or that I have reminded you of the things you used to do and got away from. Get back to them.

There is nothing finer, mentally or physically, than connecting with someone on an intimate level. You should do it as often as you can – it is what life is all about. Best of luck to you, and thanks for reading.