The Sizzling Sex Secrets in Six Steps Part 1 of 2

The Sizzling Sex Secrets in Six Steps
Part 1 of 2
Choose the Right Partner


So simple, its nearly ridiculous, right? I know. If you are, married or in a serious relationship, it may be too late - or not. But imagine if you before you made a commitment what you know now. You will realize that initial passion dies down and what you are left with for the rest of your time together is how deep-seated a desire that person truly has. How much they love sex – not just you. If they cannot get enough of you and cannot wait to fuck – that is great. But many people who make a life-long, or at least long-term commitment based on this first 12-18 months of passion end up...shall I say, disappointed.

You cannot change a leopard's spots. I did not make up this line. My line would be you cannot change a person's desire. You would think that if someone married, say, a supermodel or gorgeous actress, all they want to do for the rest of their life was have sex with them ten times a day. Sure – for a while. Then their passion would ebb and begin to look like the stock averages last year, down...down...down...as they get used to her beauty.

Would that happen to me? Honestly, no. And I am not just saying that. I may be a rare breed, but I just love to kiss, to eat pussy, have my cock worshipped and sure...to fuck with gusto. Unless she decides to forfeit her lips, pussy and legs, I will still be interested, for good. Will I look at other women? I am, not blind...just nearsighted. But when I have a woman that remains passionate about, well, passion, then I can be faithful.
Bottom line: if you chose, a person with passion similar, to yours, you made a wise – and lucky - decision for life. If you are not sure yet, delay the decision until you are. I cannot over-exaggerate the importance of this point, as hard as it may be to hear. With all the things that are important in a relationship; honesty, hard work, good financial potential, surely sexual incompatibility can be the make or break item, right? Wrong. Why are you at this website? Why are you reading this article? If you don't know in your heart by now that sexual incompatibility is something that will come back to haunt you, you may very well find out via nights of frustration and months of longing at a time.

If you're on the verge of making such a decision, please take these points into consideration –that's all I'm saying.

You can't have sizzling sex alone (satisfying sex...maybe – sizzling...no). The right partner is the difference between sizzling sex and fizzling sex.
Maybe for a lifetime.
Feeling Good about Yourself


How did this point make its way into a sex article? Is this the Oprah show?

When Oprah has a segment entitled "Oral – is giving better than receiving?" then there be no more need for these articles.

We're talking about sizzling sex here. Can sex be sizzling, even satisfying, if you do not feel good about yourself, if you lack confidence? Not saying you have, to be "super confident," comfortable in all situations and the master of all you survey. But I mean enough confidence to know that the person having sex with you, or the potential for it, is one lucky guy or girl! They not doing you any favor; you are enjoying each other.

And what does this take? Do you have to be a gorgeous magazine cover girl or fitness magazine guy? Hardly. These are unrealistic expectations for most of us. But if you feel flabby, out of shape, need a haircut, dress like a slob; you probably won't feel sexy.

And this is what a lot of sex is about – your confidence level.

Speaking of Oprah or some of the other talk shows, have you ever seen one of the makeover segments? They take a woman, for instance. Put her on a low-carb diet, such as Atkins or the South Beach Diet for a month. Have her walk around the block a couple of dozen times a day, maybe lift some light weights, and the fat melts off. Then they cut or color her hair, which has been the same style since 1988, and make her up. Finally, they take the sweat suit off and dress her nicely and viola, she is suddenly a babe. And it was inside of her all the time.

Man or women, we all get older, busier and out of shape. I defy any woman to give birth a few times and stay tight, much less have any time to exercise. I remember when I was 20 years old. An hour of weight, lifting a week and when I took my shirt off, girls took notice.
How easy it was.

I will, never be 20 again. So now it is a couple hours a week running and a couple more hours lifting. Light on the carbs, easy on the beer, sane with the pizza. It is not all that tough to keep a flat stomach and some tone in your arms, chest and shoulders. All it takes is regular discipline.

The reward is how you feel about yourself, and this comes through in feeling sexy, feeling that someone would want to have sex with you. I mean it, confidence is sexy. When you project the fact that you feel good about yourself, you give off an aura of self-assurance that improves, with age. So, I do not care if you are 20 or 60, you make the most of what you got. And speaking about making the most of what you got.
Highlight Your Best Features


I knew a girl many years ago that in all actuality was relatively average looking. Except that she had startlingly blue eyes. When she was done up, with eye liner and whatever else girls do, to their eyes that way, they sparkled. When I looked into her eyes I melted, that how sexy they were.
One feature, done right...instant sex appeal.

I know another lady in her 40s. Her legs are just gorgeous. Long, shapely, muscular calves – just the way I like them. I would like to lick my way up to her thighs and...no matter. But whenever I see her, she is wearing pants. At affairs, long dresses. No one ever sees her legs. If she wore shorts and high heels the guys would be following her home and her husband would never let her leave. But no.

It the same thing with nice, full breasts, sumptuous lips or even great hair. You got to take your best feature and underscore it so that it just cannot be ignored. Everyone got something sexy about himself or herself.

Nothing, however, is sexier than attitude. Not cockiness, not snobbery. An attitude that says without words, I will fuck you, half to death, and then finish the other half. I will suck your cock until you do not just cum – you explode.

My friend is the most mild-mannered guy you could ever see. When he done with his wife, she covered with goose bumps, sweat and cum – and loving every minute of it. All he got to do is look at her with an expression that say’s you know just what's coming, don't you? and she begins to moisten her panties. It is his attitude that he highlights.

It comes down to making the most of what you got. If you are a stunning woman or a naturally handsome man – good for you. That not where it ends though. I have known plenty of guys much better looking than me who never got half the sex. They figured their looks would be enough.
They were wrong. While they were strutting around waiting to be noticed, I was learning how to please a woman in bed, how to make her laugh, to make her feel special – make her feel good and more important, make her feel bad. Looks alone is not your ticket. One good feature – that is all. Use it.


To be continued