Oh no, not sad dear Howling ... it's all good .. being buddies isn't a bad thing .. no pressure ... thanks for the read and thoughtful comments.. always appreciated
Ouch - the flip-flop of human conditioning. Nailed in so few words. Reminds me also of the sentiment in Simon Armitage's sonnet-poem (called "Poem"): http://structureandstyle.org/post/42925917390/poem