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Defense Mechanism vs. Explanation Mechanism
I get offended
When accused
Of being defensive
My opinion,
On defense mechanism
Is that it is an
Explanation mechanism.
Defense goes up
When it seems
You won’t even listen
You say you hear
I say you do not hear, Hear
Rather, you turn your cheek
To my offering of my
Explaining the me of me.
Always been detailed oriented
It’s who I am, it’s part of me.
I pound my chest
Try to get point across
Voice in earnest tone
Of just listen for once.
So, rather than
Defense accusations
Think in terms of my
Imparting to you who I am
My thoughts, my feelings.
I want you to know me
As I want to know you.
An idea, a conversation evolution
Open it to new possibilities.
Ask a question, make a statement
But…rather than answer initial
Point of subject
Go back, dig, become a Reaper of truth.
What is reason the matter
Took spoken form?
Discover the prompt
Of initial point of discussion
And, talk about it.
After all, getting to the root
Is where we want to be.
Defending oneself
With defense mechanisms
Nor acccusations of defense
Is simply a dead end.
Why is it essential to
To send attack claiming
Defense, what is it you cannot face?
Translating defense mechanisms
Into positive outcomes
By investigating the crux
Of the defense
By all parties
Seems a more positive approach.
A defense of sorts on either side
Is just that,
Does not change a thing.
Just listen, rather than accuse.
Let me be heard
Just, please listen to hear, Hear.
I want me to be part
Of life’s prisms
To travel into the intricacies of being.
If not allowed to talk
To share my inner-most self
Staying locked in my self-prison
Is not where I want to be.
Please come away with me
Into the Enchanted Forest of our being,
Discover ourselves
Through each other.
Hold hands, touch, talk, share and feel
Our way around, open and free
Is how I want to be.
elsiesanWritten by elsiesan
Published 25th Oct 2020 | Edited 2nd May 2024
Reposted 20th Mar 2025
When accused
Of being defensive
My opinion,
On defense mechanism
Is that it is an
Explanation mechanism.
Defense goes up
When it seems
You won’t even listen
You say you hear
I say you do not hear, Hear
Rather, you turn your cheek
To my offering of my
Explaining the me of me.
Always been detailed oriented
It’s who I am, it’s part of me.
I pound my chest
Try to get point across
Voice in earnest tone
Of just listen for once.
So, rather than
Defense accusations
Think in terms of my
Imparting to you who I am
My thoughts, my feelings.
I want you to know me
As I want to know you.
An idea, a conversation evolution
Open it to new possibilities.
Ask a question, make a statement
But…rather than answer initial
Point of subject
Go back, dig, become a Reaper of truth.
What is reason the matter
Took spoken form?
Discover the prompt
Of initial point of discussion
And, talk about it.
After all, getting to the root
Is where we want to be.
Defending oneself
With defense mechanisms
Nor acccusations of defense
Is simply a dead end.
Why is it essential to
To send attack claiming
Defense, what is it you cannot face?
Translating defense mechanisms
Into positive outcomes
By investigating the crux
Of the defense
By all parties
Seems a more positive approach.
A defense of sorts on either side
Is just that,
Does not change a thing.
Just listen, rather than accuse.
Let me be heard
Just, please listen to hear, Hear.
I want me to be part
Of life’s prisms
To travel into the intricacies of being.
If not allowed to talk
To share my inner-most self
Staying locked in my self-prison
Is not where I want to be.
Please come away with me
Into the Enchanted Forest of our being,
Discover ourselves
Through each other.
Hold hands, touch, talk, share and feel
Our way around, open and free
Is how I want to be.
elsiesanWritten by elsiesan
Published 25th Oct 2020 | Edited 2nd May 2024
Reposted 20th Mar 2025
Published 21st Mar 2025
Author's Note
I write this as a way to explain myself to a person loved. There have a couple more since then, but it is applicable to all. We need to stop being defensive. It goes no where. We need to stop thinking one is being defensive when in fact they are trying to explain themselves. Defenses, most times is pure minusha. It's simply bullshit. It does not allow for people to get to the deeper meaning of where we are in life. To be able to have dialogue would be so much more productive.
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21st Mar 2025 2:33pm
This is such a stellar argument.
I get it. When attacked my defense is not defensive, but when you perceive it as so it becomes self fulfilling. I just want to be heard, man. Just shhhhh and give me the mic.
Well said.
(Also iy lied. When attacked my defense is offense!)
I get it. When attacked my defense is not defensive, but when you perceive it as so it becomes self fulfilling. I just want to be heard, man. Just shhhhh and give me the mic.
Well said.
(Also iy lied. When attacked my defense is offense!)
21st Mar 2025 9:22pm
