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A Positive Intent
As I said I have been bullied for over a year this has included:
Lies upon lies
vile poetry written
vile comments made
sarcasm about having no legs
laughed at and belittled because of a disability
told to commit suicide
sarcasm for having mental health issues
sarcasm for being impotent
ex-girlfriend recruited and pumped for insider information (lies)
this information was twisted and used for vile comments and poems
info also used to make false complaints (Proven false)
continually stalked with attempts of intimidation
recruited other poets and with slanderous lies and got some to ignore me
sabotage attempted on a group I was running
People falsely warned off from participating in this group
sarcastically accused of playing the victim role, when I am in fact, a victim and a survivor
sarcastically accused of playing the disabled card, when I am actually disabled
accused of being a:
legless cowboy
a narcissist
a dick head
a crap poet and critiquer
a bully
so may stump references
and lots of other vile crap
Attempting to destroy my reputation
destroying anything I tried to do
started to campaign to get me removed from being a MOD (Successful)***
constantly broke DU guidelines (Unpunished)
a large number of victims, some leaving the site altogether
a provable history of bullying and intimidation
I have had a genuine unreserved apology spat back in my face
e-mail address hacked
Youtube account temporarily was taken down
Poems and videos were taken down and banned from Facebook (All restored successfully)
threats from Face book of de-platforming
anonymous threats of physical violence
anonymous Death threats
All this has happened if the short space of just over a year
The thing about these kinds of people is that they are all bottom feeders. They pick out those they perceive to be weaker or in a bad place. They do not pick on people who are strong and will fight back because they are inadequate cowards. But beware, they can do some very serious damage especially to fragile hearts and minds and DU has many by its very nature. It is only a matter of time before we have a DU related suicide. This is not mellow dramatic it is my own actual honest experience. I was always taught to stand up to bullies, not to let them off the hook. I campaigned against such behaviour for my entire career. The internet revolution has put paid to that with people being able to hide in the shadows and be unidentifiable. It is now a very different game and will never be stamped out, it is now impossible. Anonymous VPNs, Photoshopped evidence, Catfishing; the future will all make this kind of behaviour so much easier. It has taken me over a year of extreme misery to formulate some conclusions (some that go against the grain and my established moral code)
***(Note to the Webmiss) I now actually agree with my removal as a MOD. I made the mistake of retaliating sometimes like for like against my assailants and I concur that this was a mistake on my part. It was my chosen path to retaliate and I should, as a MOD, have been above that kind behaviour. Which I now offer her my sincere apologies
And so to the positive solutions that I would recommend:
The 12 Rules For Internet Life - An Antidote to Bullshit - (Not by Jordan Peterson) by David Macleod
1. If bullied, harassed or berated - take screenshots and report these to the MODs every time it happens
2. Block the assailant/s
3. Do not retaliate like for like
4. Ignore the public comments from your assailant/s
5. Ask friends to not contact you with info concerning you assailants
6. Ban yourself from reading every word they write
7. Campaign for a Facebook-style blocking tool on DU
8. Never take your assailant/s behaviour as personal (They are just sick individuals)
9. Never feed the trolls they will end up ruling your life
10. Try to avoid Gossiping with your friends about them (an unproductive waste of time)
11. Only respect those who treat you with respect (respect must be sought and earned)
12. If it happens once, it will happen again. Do not trust someone when your trust has been broken
I write this as my final statement of intent:
I am blocking my two assailants
I will not read another vile word they write
I will not retaliate even when provoked
I will not enter any of their competitions nor will I comment
I will not comment on them at all
I have asked my friends not to report to me on my ex-assailants words
I will not allow anyone to steal my power or enjoyment of DU and will treat people all the same
Love and respect gets love and respect, disrespect demands blocking
I am unable to lead or assist in a campaign for zero tolerance (Sadly)
I will campaign for an extensive block function on DU (Separately and unrelated to this issue and for the good of the site)
I will campaign for the practice of multiple accounts to be stopped (Separately and unrelated to this issue and for the good of the site)
* Note: This reciprocal deal was offered about six months ago to my two assailants. As per their nature they spat it back in my face and carried on regardless, they do to this very day.
this will be my final word on this subject and my two assailants. Yes, I have lost but it is seriously no loss at all. This will now be my chosen path and a necessary one. I only wish I had followed it a long year ago, but upwards and onwards, lessons learned
so it is written, so it will be done
(Still smiling like a smug twat LOL)
(I am a new broom just not flying on one)
DU "The Best Poetry Site On The Internet"
David Macleod xxxxx :-)))))))
Lies upon lies
vile poetry written
vile comments made
sarcasm about having no legs
laughed at and belittled because of a disability
told to commit suicide
sarcasm for having mental health issues
sarcasm for being impotent
ex-girlfriend recruited and pumped for insider information (lies)
this information was twisted and used for vile comments and poems
info also used to make false complaints (Proven false)
continually stalked with attempts of intimidation
recruited other poets and with slanderous lies and got some to ignore me
sabotage attempted on a group I was running
People falsely warned off from participating in this group
sarcastically accused of playing the victim role, when I am in fact, a victim and a survivor
sarcastically accused of playing the disabled card, when I am actually disabled
accused of being a:
legless cowboy
a narcissist
a dick head
a crap poet and critiquer
a bully
so may stump references
and lots of other vile crap
Attempting to destroy my reputation
destroying anything I tried to do
started to campaign to get me removed from being a MOD (Successful)***
constantly broke DU guidelines (Unpunished)
a large number of victims, some leaving the site altogether
a provable history of bullying and intimidation
I have had a genuine unreserved apology spat back in my face
e-mail address hacked
Youtube account temporarily was taken down
Poems and videos were taken down and banned from Facebook (All restored successfully)
threats from Face book of de-platforming
anonymous threats of physical violence
anonymous Death threats
All this has happened if the short space of just over a year
The thing about these kinds of people is that they are all bottom feeders. They pick out those they perceive to be weaker or in a bad place. They do not pick on people who are strong and will fight back because they are inadequate cowards. But beware, they can do some very serious damage especially to fragile hearts and minds and DU has many by its very nature. It is only a matter of time before we have a DU related suicide. This is not mellow dramatic it is my own actual honest experience. I was always taught to stand up to bullies, not to let them off the hook. I campaigned against such behaviour for my entire career. The internet revolution has put paid to that with people being able to hide in the shadows and be unidentifiable. It is now a very different game and will never be stamped out, it is now impossible. Anonymous VPNs, Photoshopped evidence, Catfishing; the future will all make this kind of behaviour so much easier. It has taken me over a year of extreme misery to formulate some conclusions (some that go against the grain and my established moral code)
***(Note to the Webmiss) I now actually agree with my removal as a MOD. I made the mistake of retaliating sometimes like for like against my assailants and I concur that this was a mistake on my part. It was my chosen path to retaliate and I should, as a MOD, have been above that kind behaviour. Which I now offer her my sincere apologies
And so to the positive solutions that I would recommend:
The 12 Rules For Internet Life - An Antidote to Bullshit - (Not by Jordan Peterson) by David Macleod
1. If bullied, harassed or berated - take screenshots and report these to the MODs every time it happens
2. Block the assailant/s
3. Do not retaliate like for like
4. Ignore the public comments from your assailant/s
5. Ask friends to not contact you with info concerning you assailants
6. Ban yourself from reading every word they write
7. Campaign for a Facebook-style blocking tool on DU
8. Never take your assailant/s behaviour as personal (They are just sick individuals)
9. Never feed the trolls they will end up ruling your life
10. Try to avoid Gossiping with your friends about them (an unproductive waste of time)
11. Only respect those who treat you with respect (respect must be sought and earned)
12. If it happens once, it will happen again. Do not trust someone when your trust has been broken
I write this as my final statement of intent:
I am blocking my two assailants
I will not read another vile word they write
I will not retaliate even when provoked
I will not enter any of their competitions nor will I comment
I will not comment on them at all
I have asked my friends not to report to me on my ex-assailants words
I will not allow anyone to steal my power or enjoyment of DU and will treat people all the same
Love and respect gets love and respect, disrespect demands blocking
I am unable to lead or assist in a campaign for zero tolerance (Sadly)
I will campaign for an extensive block function on DU (Separately and unrelated to this issue and for the good of the site)
I will campaign for the practice of multiple accounts to be stopped (Separately and unrelated to this issue and for the good of the site)
* Note: This reciprocal deal was offered about six months ago to my two assailants. As per their nature they spat it back in my face and carried on regardless, they do to this very day.
this will be my final word on this subject and my two assailants. Yes, I have lost but it is seriously no loss at all. This will now be my chosen path and a necessary one. I only wish I had followed it a long year ago, but upwards and onwards, lessons learned
so it is written, so it will be done
(Still smiling like a smug twat LOL)
(I am a new broom just not flying on one)
DU "The Best Poetry Site On The Internet"
David Macleod xxxxx :-)))))))
Published 26th Aug 2019
Author's Note
Please read to the end - the positive intent is there
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27th Aug 2019 00:32am
Powerful call to action I openly applaud your honesty and bravery. And being man enough to apologise when you are wrong, that’s a trait many people have lost these days
27th Aug 2019 3:56am
thank you, just felt it had to be written down so there is no confusion. also wanted to share solutions that I eventually came to :-)))))
Anonymous
28th Aug 2019 4:59pm
Gotta do what heals you. Rise above. Strong message, my friend.
So many fierce hugs!!!
So many fierce hugs!!!
28th Aug 2019 5:34pm
Dear D,
Really sorry to read all this and that you went through such a nightmare.
I can’t wait to enjoy future works with your witty, clever, and truthful poetry. Strength and power are in words of truth and wisdom. H🌷
Really sorry to read all this and that you went through such a nightmare.
I can’t wait to enjoy future works with your witty, clever, and truthful poetry. Strength and power are in words of truth and wisdom. H🌷
30th Aug 2019 3:37pm
David,
I hear you. I know what it's like. I had a stalker for upwards of 6 years. My ex best friend. It is particularly emasculating to be stalked by a man. He is an alcoholic and I am told was abusing hard drugs back then. In retrospect, I understand that his unhealthy attachment to our lost friendship was about not having a healthy self esteem, not loving himself, and feeling like he needed the love of others to fill that deficit. At the time, I roiled in a sea of rancor, seething anger and hatred, for the daily intrusion and the ugliness of it.
You have made a clear and reasonable accounting here of what has been perpetrated and how to respond. I think that is the best you can do and I support you.
I suffered through the abuse and eventually it came to an end, but it was a difficult time. It seems like, in one sense, that is the essence of living. We suffer through these trials. I used to be a more jovial person, but after all the things I went through, one after another, it burned through to the more serious person I was underneath. Still, I'm hoping, if I can get things straightened out a bit more in my life, that a bit of that easy humor will return. Doing my best in that regard.
Anyhow, one day at a time. Cleaning out my coolers and thermos to fill with ice and water. Probably be several days sweltering in the heat during the day and cloying humidity and darkness through the long night, alone with my thoughts and trying to keep my elderly mother calm.
I agree with Honoria. You're being true to yourself and no one can reasonably fault you for that. I applaud you for it. We'll get through these times and onto the next challenge.
Daniel
I hear you. I know what it's like. I had a stalker for upwards of 6 years. My ex best friend. It is particularly emasculating to be stalked by a man. He is an alcoholic and I am told was abusing hard drugs back then. In retrospect, I understand that his unhealthy attachment to our lost friendship was about not having a healthy self esteem, not loving himself, and feeling like he needed the love of others to fill that deficit. At the time, I roiled in a sea of rancor, seething anger and hatred, for the daily intrusion and the ugliness of it.
You have made a clear and reasonable accounting here of what has been perpetrated and how to respond. I think that is the best you can do and I support you.
I suffered through the abuse and eventually it came to an end, but it was a difficult time. It seems like, in one sense, that is the essence of living. We suffer through these trials. I used to be a more jovial person, but after all the things I went through, one after another, it burned through to the more serious person I was underneath. Still, I'm hoping, if I can get things straightened out a bit more in my life, that a bit of that easy humor will return. Doing my best in that regard.
Anyhow, one day at a time. Cleaning out my coolers and thermos to fill with ice and water. Probably be several days sweltering in the heat during the day and cloying humidity and darkness through the long night, alone with my thoughts and trying to keep my elderly mother calm.
I agree with Honoria. You're being true to yourself and no one can reasonably fault you for that. I applaud you for it. We'll get through these times and onto the next challenge.
Daniel
