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I wonder how effective it is to challenge a sad person back to normalcy because sometimes it works like magic other times not so well.

what do you think? 🤔

It depends on the individual person, in my opinion.  Sometimes it's a slap in the face back to reality. Others, well, it's a shove into a deeper darkness of depression.

I think people have to experience all forms of contrast in order to learn what they don't want, and to appreciate what they do when gravity finally shifts.  Holding on until that shift occurs is the tricky part - and exactly where we step in with a method of support that could make or break them.

People need time to learn new things. Even the genius. It is too easy to realize that fact if one cares to observe the process of learning. I completely agree with your notion on the need to experience contrasting forms of reality in order to learn.

The holding on part comes easy as far as I am concerned, but that instant where “the shift” you speak of occurs is not so easy. I just wish people will just get back up, dust the dirt off their shoulders when they fall and just move on to greater things. How is the natural order of celestial bodies not enough answer to their dilemma? Look at the sun for example, my friend ahavati, how it rises and sets regardless of what happens in a day or night. Why can’t we just follow suit if we lack that inner ability to do so ourselves? Such things leaves me wondering.

Newton’s second law is another path leading to that very same realization. I just wish people would stop wallowing in the past and start seeing the world for what it is; a vast unconquerable realm filled with infinite variations of new moments to experience, and similar (but never the same) moments to relive.

Believe me, I know about holding on. I held onto something a full decade before the shift finally happened inside me - yet, in looking back, I realized it was happening the entire time. It was the very holding on that caused the shift to occur.  As though an egg was cracking and finally divided after too much pressure.

The sun isn't human, nor experiencing human emotion, the very catalyst for evolution.  The ultimate goal of our combined lifetimes and experiences is to reach detachment and thus enlightenment.  We all come to learn eventually through time that attachment is, as the Buddhists say, the root of all suffering.

It's heartrending to see someone hold onto another so maliciously, attempting to destroy another person's life through vicious vitriol simply because that person doesn't love them anymore, and wants to move on.  And who is to say that the one who desires to move on never loved to begin with, when they indeed could've loved with all their heart for that moment in time.  

Nothing stays the same or we would never grow; we would never learn; we would never evolve as a species.  Sometimes the lesson rests in the letting go - and until it's learned, it will continue ( as any other lesson ) to repeat itself until we become so exhausted from holding on, we crack, and let go.  

That is the beginning.

An interesting an contemplative poem... Makes you think.

Keep up the great writing, wanderer!