Child Sexual Exploitation and Violence

Our patriarchal culture normalizes significant damage to young girls who are still growing into themselves and learning what life is about. It's seen as a "normal" thing for big men to be with school girls. Young girls (particularly Black girls) are often labelled as "fast" and "grown." The blame is always heaped at their feet and this ensures that big men can continue to prey on them without ever receiving any criticism/repercussion for their predatory actions. Victim blaming is dangerous and results in many silently accepting abuse because they know majority of society will have no real concern for them.

Most predators target their victims based on a specific set of criteria: backgrounds of abuse, mental health problems, experiences of neglect etc. This isn't done by chance. This is calculated. Vulnerable girls are more susceptible to fall for the interest of older men. Predators like to make young girls feel that they don't normally like girls their age. There's just something different about you, you're so mature are things they are fond of saying.

They would use the pretense of the writing mentor to gain access to victims and would coerce them through a steady stream of alcohol work yes but they would always find some way to make sexual comments and innuendos. There was always some sexual joke to be made, some secret, some lingering look and touch. They would recommend reading books and transfer knowledge to give an impression that they care about your mental health. Despite those predators stating that they did not like young girls, after getting what they want they would again find another victim in the form of a young girl barely pass the age of consent. Predators know who to prey on. They know how often their adult interest in vulnerable children would be received.

As a naive child, there's a giddiness that comes with gaining adult attention. Teenage brains do not finish maturing until mid-20s. So while they may be mature in relation to their age, they are not mature enough to make decisions about intimate relationships with older partners. Predators get an ego trip from being with teenagers and depend on their naivety. They want persons who are unable to see/understand the problems they as an older person have and the manipulation tactics they use.

I had a history of trauma. As it stands, prepubescent girls and teenaged girls under the age of 16 are daily groomed and raped by predators. While they have the recourse of the law, very few actually get justice due to a variety of reasons such as victim blaming, no reportage, fear, law enforcement biases/bribes, judicial bias etc. The line drawn in the sand when it comes to who is considered enough of an adult to give sexual consent has seen many 16 & 17 year olds falling through the "barely there" safety net as they are considered "old enough to know better" when they are in fact still children vulnerable to predators. So the situation we end up with is one where 16 & 17 year olds have even less recourse in seeking access to justice/support when they have been sexually groomed, manipulated and assaulted by someone who is way ahead in years and life experiences.

Predators who don't want to deal with pesky grooming laws seek out 16/17 year olds intentionally. They are master planners. The normalization of predatory violent relationships made this seem normal cognitively.

But once you're a child raised on trauma, you are more susceptible to narcissistic predators. All pretense of the writing mentor falling away to reveal its true ugly nature. Most predators would ply victims with alcohol and would have sex with them.

Even if a child is over 16, they still can face sexual exploitation. Consent is informed by a person having the freedom and capacity to make choices about sex. Consent must be informed and freely given, not assumed, coerced or taken. 16 and 17 year olds face particular vulnerability as society regards them as looking for what they're getting. This view fails to understand the intense and targeted nature of grooming. It is due to the age of consent, why predators target them. They understand that these children lack protection under the law and society often condones the exploitation of them. There should be no normalizing of these predator-prey relationships and glamorizing older men "dating" teenagers because through the eyes of the teenagers who face a multitude of abuse, there is nothing glamorous about it.

Despite my body and mind's signals, trauma bonding in relationships is bound to happen to those with a history of trauma and its power is extreme.

Most predators would be both in awe of victims and envious of victims. The victim talent, intelligence, my desirability. Things that they was constantly at war with themselves over. They are intensely paranoid and possessive. They would try to pressure victims to marry them, to have a baby for them, to promise to stay with them forever.

Those predators are verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive to victims throughout. They would stalk. They would show up to homes uninvited. They would constantly go through emails and social media. They would send nasty messages to peer of the victims and try to isolate them from everyone. These are all tactics of abusive and narcissistic psychopaths. They would frequently wake their preys out of deep sleep to question them about another their paranoid delusions. They’ll shout, curse. Punching walls, slamming on tables and the use of their bodyweight and size to intimidate their preys into small corners of themselves.

These predators suffer from resentment issues so they don’t take too kindly in being left.

At the end of all of these physical/sexual/verbal/mentally abusive interactions, predators would frame the women as the problem. They would make reference to their/our mental and emotional state, saying that the women or children are unstable, need help and are just trying to taint their name. But no one can taint a name that was dripping dirt from the beginning. Predatory men run rampant in this place. Abusive predators will do what they do best, deny, deny, deny. And why wouldn't they? They often have a host of fawning supporters who see sexual exploitation as nothing major. Many hide under a veil of heightened morality but under that veil real evil resides.

I have no political ambitions or alignments and no interest in tarnishing a failing party; they will do enough of that on their own given their makeup. What I have an interest in is breaking patterns, breaking patterns of abuse for myself and others. The first step is self healing, a process I've long begun and this step now is ripping away the pretensive veils of abusers, bit by bit. I'm not here for a tit for tat with anyone. I am here for the countless victims of abuse who feel as if they have no support. I am here to let you know that it is not your fault that you were taken advantage of. It's not your fault you weren't allowed to heal. It's not your fault you fell into abusive patterns. Just know that I am here for you and I believe you. There is a legion of women who are here to support you. Guidance ❤️

Lets challenge patriarchy but first I need to begin with education, with explaining what feminism is and figuring out what it requires. That means giving the oppressed a central voice and letting the oppressed lead their own struggle themselves and either being directly involved or working as an ally to them. We should work to develop a culture of feminism everywhere. We should oppose hierarchy since it quickly is co-opted by oppression and is harmful to feminist values. We should work for the development of safer spaces policies in all institutions across the world (since no institution or space is free from patriarchy and it's relations or the potential arising of them), Fight rape culture, challenge gender roles and the gender binary, oppose patriarchal laws, challenge privilege- yours and others and  challenge micro-aggression so that they become unusual and a culture of intolerance towards oppression develops.
  
Ultimately I would argue what is required that is abolition of all systematically oppressive institutions and the creation of a society with institutions and practices following from the principles of freedom, equality and solidarity during and as part of that process developing networks of mutual aid and build alternative institutions. I call for a society based on and which encourages caring and nurturing behaviors. Are you apart of the movement?