Give Me a Reason to Care

Can relate to much of that, thank you for sharing

Thank you for commenting. It's very much appreciated 😁

Thoughts that are very important of stimulation to the heart and soul and mind provoking of creating change in one self esteem 🙏👊🤔

Being aware can make you stronger for sure. Thanks for the comment. Very much appreciated.

You are very strong and you have the power to make it easier on you yourself just want you to keep your head up 💪🙏👊

Your poem resonates, hitting a nerve, DC. I would guess with many others as well. I always deeply appreciate your talented ability to say it like it is. I've probably mentioned that before (sorry) but I truly find that writing style so awe inspiring.... refreshing me. Thank you for capturing what you feel and penning it like you do....We all benefit.  

Great work,  
🌹-B

I don't mind hearing it again 😁 makes me happy to be told that, and by such a great talent as yourself. It also makes me happy that people understand.

Thanks very much for the comment. Much appreciated 😁

Wow. This is amazing. Thank you for sharing

That is a amazing comment to hear. Thank you very much for the read. Very much appreciated 😁

Sorry DC, it's been too long since I stopped by but I am here now. :) You really captured the dynamic of many relationships so well. Your writing is so magnificently rooted in life; it walks you through the emotions, the issues, and the situations and is so relatable. This one strikes a nerve especially in regards to abusive people. We can encounter them in all stages of life, even at our most vulnerable and that kind of damage can be catastrophic. Abusive people will always find someone to torment. Sometimes people even just like hurting someone else because they decided they don't like them for no reason at all or trivial things. They smile while the whole time trying to inflict damage, and saying hateful things and doing everything they can to wear you down. It often is the most sensitive and kind people that are the ones targeted. And so often the abuser will try to attribute their traits and behaviors to you and make you feel small and insignificant. But they really need to look in the mirror because they may not like what other people may start to see. Sadly though, they will probably be very happy with the reflection because that's just how people like that are. They have no desire to find a resolution and seem quite happy with letting their own insecurities be used as a weapon to hurt someone and drag them down sharing as much misery as possible.

I'm happy to see you at anytime 😁 As they say "ignorance is bliss". Some people will always see themselves as the hero even when they are the abusers. Maybe we all have a bit of that flaw. I just find more often than not people look away, or even look down on people when needing help. Makes one not want to care.

Thanks so much for the read, friend 😁

This is a very complex subject...

I feel like everyone perhaps has their own self image,
and none can be complete, in and of themselves...

We are such multi faceted, nuanced creatures,
compounded in complexity, based upon our interactions within a matrix...

Structured with ever more complex complexities...  :p

I think that, in terms of predatory individuals...

Well that is interesting...  I was going to attempt to
determine the proportion that have a self awareness of their predatory proclivities...

I think maybe it depends on the environment,
as so many things do...

I think in the basest environments...  Those environments
where the primal needs are most pronounced, based upon...  Something like a lack of resources...

I think in these environments, there is more self knowledge,
in terms of predatory awareness...

I think of it like a colony of lizards...  Komodo dragons...
Tails swinging and teeth gleaming...

Maybe this is the easiest environment to deal with,
because there is maybe a common knowledge...

We are all predators, and we are all out for blood...

But then when you get into more civilized environments,
then there are perhaps more nuanced, grey area sort of situations...

There are...  Complex thoughts and emotions.

There are...  Paradigms of morality and common ethical considerations maybe...

At least on the surface...  As each complex being
chooses how much or how little to abide by these parameters...

Testing the boundaries and things...

Then... You have some people who might like to
be "the victim" or...  Like to be the victim and not realize it...

or visa versa...  Like to be the predator and not
realize it...

Or...  Realize, in each capacity...

Or be self aware sometimes and sometimes not...

Just so many variations of complexity...

Like...

One minute you're violating every
"rule" of common decency, and the next...

Crying about someone breaking the rules...

What up with that.?.

Oh...

And then there are ideas like Karma
or the law of three...

Like some external response system
that maybe adds a sensible element to the chaos...

And then the type of relationship
is a consideration...

I feel like this piece addresses the romantic aspect of relationships...

That is it's own form of complexity...

I was always very lucky and interacted with
cool, kind hearted females...

I mean...  There were of course, complexities,
but they were maybe understandable...

And therefore could sort of be integrated and continue forth...

Then I met one who employed
more elements of dark psychology...

Twas an interesting experience and a long story of course...

I just know I have a capacity
to go into "sicko mode"...

Like:

Im not the one to be fucked with.  Strait up.

This, of course, can mean a lot of things.

You know...  There are different approaches.

I think to myself...  I'd like to live pure,
but maybe that is not possible in this world...

But then I think...  Maybe being impure,
in a world that is not pure, is...  Being pure...

Tis really complex...

I think to myself that I want to "be a good person".

What the hell is that.?.

I mean...  I know...  But...

Is such a thing even possible.?.

In terms of predator and prey,
between humans...

It is incredibly complex...

How often do the tables turn.?.
Being the complex creatures that we are...

Like in romantic relationships,
the one who created the tears is left crying...

And fucked up...

And then just the nature of suffering.

There is virtue in suffering,
a great source of power...

Like being blessed with curses...

But...  It can be difficult to see.

This quite a thought provoking piece...

That's quite the thought provoking comment that I very much appreciate. I'm not sure if I would say people are that complex. We are animals so we act as such. Protecting our own interest and being predatory. I think environment determines how one might go about being those ways but still the same none the less.

As a side note; this isn't really about a romantic relationship. More about friends and family that I felt let down by.

Thank you very much for the read 😁