Once a bully gets away with bullying, the will not stop, I have been relentlessly bullied for over a year now, in poems comments and public lies, it is a minority in here I would think but I know of a few. I cannot decide for the site, just express my opinion and at some time expose the truth. Most people on this site are friendly and supportive

but the mods are in a very difficult position, there are claims and counterclaims kinda makes the things almost impossible for them. I know I was one.

Having said all I have said DUP is the best poetry community on the internet there are only a few bad apples and for that, we should be grateful :-)))

I am struggling to understand exactly what you are saying. Were you bullied by one man on DU?

"As for being bullied online - bless their little heart"

"It’s a shame they haven’t the bottle to collaborate with myself.
I’m just as garbage as them. But I’m not a bad apple."



Please clarify

yeah that helps a lot - thank you

A Positive Intent

As I said I have been bullied for over a year this has included:

Lies upon lies
vile poetry written
vile comments made
sarcasm about having no legs
laughed at and belittled because of a disability
told to commit suicide
sarcasm for having mental health issues
sarcasm for being impotent
ex-girlfriend recruited and pumped for insider information (lies)
this information was twisted and used for vile comments and poems
info also used to make false complaints (Proven false)
continually stalked with attempts of intimidation
recruited other poets and with slanderous lies and got some to ignore me
sabotage attempted on a group I was running
People falsely warned off from participating in this group
sarcastically accused of playing the victim role, when I am in fact, a victim and a survivor
sarcastically accused of playing the disabled card, when I am actually disabled
accused of being a:
legless cowboy
a narcissist
a dick head
a crap poet and critiquer
a bully
so may stump references
and lots of other vile crap
Attempting to destroy my reputation
destroying anything I tried to do
started to campaign to get me removed from being a MOD (Successful)***
constantly broke DU guidelines (Unpunished)
a large number of victims, some leaving the site altogether
a provable history of bullying and intimidation
I have had a genuine unreserved apology spat back in my face
e-mail address hacked
Youtube account temporarily was taken down
Poems and videos were taken down and banned from Facebook (All restored successfully)
threats from Face book of de-platforming
anonymous threats of physical violence
anonymous Death threats

All this has happened if the short space of just over a year


The thing about these kinds of people is that they are all bottom feeders. They pick out those they perceive to be weaker or in a bad place. They do not pick on people who are strong and will fight back because they are inadequate cowards. But beware, they can do some very serious damage especially to fragile hearts and minds and DU has many by its very nature. It is only a matter of time before we have a DU related suicide. This is not mellow dramatic it is my own actual honest experience. I was always taught to stand up to bullies, not to let them off the hook. I campaigned against such behaviour for my entire career. The internet revolution has put paid to that with people being able to hide in the shadows and be unidentifiable. It is now a very different game and will never be stamped out, it is now impossible. Anonymous VPNs, Photoshopped evidence, Catfishing; the future will all make this kind of behaviour so much easier. It has taken me over a year of extreme misery to formulate some conclusions (some that go against the grain and my established moral code)

***(Note to the Webmiss) I now actually agree with my removal as a MOD. I made the mistake of retaliating sometimes like for like against my assailants and I concur that this was a mistake on my part. It was my chosen path to retaliate and I should, as a MOD, have been above that kind behaviour. Which I now offer her my sincere apologies

And so to the positive solutions that I would recommend:

The 12 Rules For Internet Life - An Antidote to Bullshit - (Not by Jordan Peterson) by David Macleod

1. If bullied, harassed or berated - take screenshots and report these to the MODs every time it happens
2. Block the assailant/s
3. Do not retaliate like for like
4. Ignore the public comments from your assailant/s
5. Ask friends to not contact you with info concerning you assailants
6. Ban yourself from reading every word they write
7. Campaign for a Facebook-style blocking tool on DU
8. Never take your assailant/s behaviour as personal (They are just sick individuals)
9. Never feed the trolls they will end up ruling your life
10. Try to avoid Gossiping with your friends about them (an unproductive waste of time)
11. Only respect those who treat you with respect (respect must be sought and earned)
12. If it happens once, it will happen again. Do not trust someone when your trust has been broken

I write this as my final statement of intent:

I am blocking my two assailants
I will not read another vile word they write
I will not retaliate even when provoked
I will not enter any of their competitions nor will I comment
I will not comment on them at all
I have asked my friends not to report to me on my ex-assailants words
I will not allow anyone to steal my power or enjoyment of DU and will treat people all the same
Love and respect gets love and respect, disrespect demands blocking
I am unable to lead or assist in a campaign for zero tolerance (Sadly)

I will campaign for an extensive block function on DU (Separately and unrelated to this issue and for the good of the site)
I will campaign for the practice of multiple accounts to be stopped (Separately and unrelated to this issue and for the good of the site)

* Note: This reciprocal deal was offered about six months ago to my two assailants. As per their nature they spat it back in my face and carried on regardless, they do to this very day.

this will be my final word on this subject and my two assailants. Yes, I have lost but it is seriously no loss at all. This will now be my chosen path and a necessary one. I only wish I had followed it a long year ago, but upwards and onwards, lessons learned

so it is written, so it will be done
(Still smiling like a smug twat LOL)
(I am a new broom just not flying on one)
DU "The Best Poetry Site On The Internet"

David Macleod xxxxx :-)))))))

Only two or three times...but I always take the advice of the great Stoic Philosopher, Epictetus..."If someone were to casually give your body away to any old passerby, you would naturally be furious.
Why then do you feel no shame in giving your precious mind over to any person who might wish to influence you? Think twice before you give up your own mind to someone who may revile you, leaving you confused and upset."
My response to anyone who tells me a poem of mine is bad, is to tell them to read all my other poems because there is some real fuckin' shitty poems that are far more shitty than this one.

this poll has been suppressed and is not posting on the "Latest forum discussions list"

I've had some ...we'll call them poems (for the sake of calling them something)  written about me for the purpose of insult and hurt. I was insulted for some minutes. looking back I'm grateful that at least the person who posted them owned them. that's to say he didn't pretend they weren't what they were. did I complain/ report ? no. but that's just me, or my character / personality . I wouldn't expect others to do what I do


difference between the person who posted about me and the person who posted about you is your person is a coward. lets call him person A


no doubt in my mind person A posted a load of ...we'll call them poems (for the sake of calling them something) with intent of insult/ hurt. person A wrote as little and as much so you'd -get it- but he'd get away with it. person A is a coward. he got away with it

I'm sorry, but for all intents and purpose -its over-.  way I see it you're going to have to let go.  and in fairness you're not free of ill intent yourself (as you've pointed out)


i do understand your anger and frustration and it is shared by many others on the site. but to quote some lyrics 'what's done is done, what's won is won, and what's lost is lost forever'


I would ask you to be the bigger man here. in the future, if you're being bullied, harrased  or otherwise experiancing negative behaviour take screen shots and collect evidence.

I am genuinly sorry for your experiance, and more sorry there's nothing I can do about it. I'm sure you understand...

Of course, I understand. Sometimes the frustration turns to rage when there are multiple victims and victims seen that came after me and the damage and hurt still goes on and is going on. To chose to completely ignore their behaviour was a selfish thing for me to do, given that I can still see it going on. I feel that I have let others down.

LibraSoul96 said:Although this never happened to me on here my advice to use is to simply block them so there shall be no contact at all. Also, ignore those folks because they are often miserable in their own lives and try to take it out on you. Be the bigger person and if it comes to telling them off do it.

I feel the BLOCK Function would be more effective if it was similar to how the Function operates on Facebook ----- where the perpetrator is unable to see / read anything anywhere (Group Forums / Threads or Poetry Profiles).  

Just adding my 2 cents