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You are not a victim.
You are not a victim.
It's been too many years for that.
It's not your cause or symptom.
It has nothing to do with you, in fact.
Some husbands are just mean.
A cocktail of violent cruelty.
But you are what's obscene.
Swallowing disrespect effusively.
You are not a martyr.
Your choice is disgrace.
You are the selfish partner.
Survival, only works that way.
You won't be a hero for leaving.
From where you should never have been.
It would only prove, you love him.
To protect him, even from him.
If you could take away his disgrace.
Wouldn't you do whatever it takes?
Or the power to stop his rage.
Shouldn't you if there's a way?
You have the power, so use it, today.
You can save your husband.
Arrogant pride makes you stay.
Love, if true, sacrifices to save.
So, stand up right now. And walk away.
It's been too many years for that.
It's not your cause or symptom.
It has nothing to do with you, in fact.
Some husbands are just mean.
A cocktail of violent cruelty.
But you are what's obscene.
Swallowing disrespect effusively.
You are not a martyr.
Your choice is disgrace.
You are the selfish partner.
Survival, only works that way.
You won't be a hero for leaving.
From where you should never have been.
It would only prove, you love him.
To protect him, even from him.
If you could take away his disgrace.
Wouldn't you do whatever it takes?
Or the power to stop his rage.
Shouldn't you if there's a way?
You have the power, so use it, today.
You can save your husband.
Arrogant pride makes you stay.
Love, if true, sacrifices to save.
So, stand up right now. And walk away.
Published 16th Mar 2024
Author's Note
Full circle telling me. A victim has a Victor. And noone is victory over me.
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23rd Mar 2024 4:47pm
This passage seems to convey a complex and conflicting message about victimhood, responsibility, and empowerment in the context of an abusive relationship.
At first glance, the tone appears to be dismissive and critical of the idea of victimhood, urging the subject to reject any sense of being a victim and instead take action. It suggests that enduring abuse is a choice and implies a level of complicity in allowing the mistreatment to continue.
However, there are layers of manipulation and coercion present in the language used, reflecting common tactics employed by abusers to maintain control over their victims. Phrases like "You are not a victim" are repeated, almost as if to convince the subject to internalize this narrative. The passage also attempts to diminish the severity of the abuse by characterizing it as simply a result of the husband's innate cruelty, rather than acknowledging it as a serious and unacceptable violation.
Furthermore, the passage places the burden of responsibility on the victim to "save" their abuser, framing it as an act of love and sacrifice rather than recognizing the need for the victim to prioritize their own safety and well-being. This perpetuates harmful myths about the dynamics of abusive relationships and ignores the complexities involved in leaving such situations, including the very real risks and barriers that victims face.
Overall, while the passage may be attempting to encourage empowerment and agency, it does so in a way that minimizes the experiences of abuse victims and reinforces harmful stereotypes about their perceived role in the abuse. It's important to approach discussions of abuse with sensitivity, empathy, and an understanding of the dynamics involved, rather than placing blame or judgment on the victims themselves.
At first glance, the tone appears to be dismissive and critical of the idea of victimhood, urging the subject to reject any sense of being a victim and instead take action. It suggests that enduring abuse is a choice and implies a level of complicity in allowing the mistreatment to continue.
However, there are layers of manipulation and coercion present in the language used, reflecting common tactics employed by abusers to maintain control over their victims. Phrases like "You are not a victim" are repeated, almost as if to convince the subject to internalize this narrative. The passage also attempts to diminish the severity of the abuse by characterizing it as simply a result of the husband's innate cruelty, rather than acknowledging it as a serious and unacceptable violation.
Furthermore, the passage places the burden of responsibility on the victim to "save" their abuser, framing it as an act of love and sacrifice rather than recognizing the need for the victim to prioritize their own safety and well-being. This perpetuates harmful myths about the dynamics of abusive relationships and ignores the complexities involved in leaving such situations, including the very real risks and barriers that victims face.
Overall, while the passage may be attempting to encourage empowerment and agency, it does so in a way that minimizes the experiences of abuse victims and reinforces harmful stereotypes about their perceived role in the abuse. It's important to approach discussions of abuse with sensitivity, empathy, and an understanding of the dynamics involved, rather than placing blame or judgment on the victims themselves.
7th Apr 2024 4:40pm
I am grateful for the time you invested in this poem. Navigating malignant physical abuse is mass confusion. Surviving it, is a miracle that offers little enlightenment. This poem is a hypothetical thought process. From the mind of society. Explaining why, Noone treated him differently, but treated me with scorn, as if i was the one beating his wife. This treatment is universal, around the world. Maybe this is how they see it. And helps explain the vast miles from understanding or preventing domestic violence. Or... maybe not.
