Penalty Box

Texted her yesterday she dont regret anything

I couldn’t message her because DUP won’t allow messaging to her during her period of banishment.

I don’t know if there is anything to regret, because that part of the discussion isn’t on the forum.

A common theme in the coronavirus discussion is ‘show me the source, so I can decide for myself’.  Apparently that doesn’t apply in this case. The discussion that was removed was too hot for me to handle, so  I suppose I should be thankful for the mods protection.

Hope to see you writing soon.  

Funny. I find myself in a similar situation and mind set. *Sigh*



--B

There is a difference between speaking one’s mind and personally attacking other members here, that one dislikes .  There are guidelines of engagement, for lack of a better term that doesn’t sound controlling or censoring , and those are to avoid those people that rub you the wrong way, and use the report button if there’s something truly amiss .

The issue at hand spiraled into accusing the mods of being paid to uphold and support some members here, thus making it look like there was favoritism going on, which there is not.

The problem that this causes, is that by putting this sort of idea out there, it undermines the freedom we do have at this site by making people feel as if there’s some conspiracy going on and they are under some thuggish rule where they don’t count and will be suppressed .

So instead of just staying away from members you don’t personally care for , a riot of sorts was started and yes, then the mods had to step in and do our jobs based on the website guidelines under which we are bound to uphold, being mods .

I hope this gives some clarity because we truly want everyone to feel comfortable being here and expressing themselves, but is unfair when visciousness and vindictiveness invades that expression .

Since the offensive comments have been hidden or removed, I have no way to determine if what was said was personal attack or name-calling in the midst of a disagreement. At least a few here do have concerns about the possibility of censorship or favoritism.
I really enjoy this site and the art and discussion.
As stated in my poem, I hope the sabbatical is a brief one.
-kp

I enjoy this site too, and the only censorship I believe is necessary are for the times when the daggers come out against each other to the point of escalation to a personal brawl between members . Also too , spammers, catfishing, and those who post/promote kiddie porn and real crimes/murder, etc.  

As far as sabbatical length , the majority of them aren’t very long .  Whether or not they should be longer , really is up to the person taking the sabbatical , when said break is over.

There’s a lot of crap in the world that needs changing , correcting , calling-out, etc ., but when we turn on each other during that process , the issues in question themselves , become the winners because we’ve not solved the problem, only made each other bleed .

Never heard of the term Catfishing what does it mean

AP --

" Catfishing

Catfishing is a deceptive activity where a person creates a sockpuppet presence or fake identity on a social networking service, usually targeting a specific victim for abuse or fraud. Catfishing is often employed for romance scams on dating websites. Wikipedia "

Am I glad I don’t talk to many people then

Brother,
males and females have been catfishing each other long before the digital age; it only became a term in our recent times.

No idea what it used to be called.

Stay safe, Brother
(from those Female Fish)

According to the Catfish documentary—the term catfish comes from fishermen "putting sea catfish in with the cod to nip at their tails and keep them active" during overseas transport in order to produce more lively and fresh meat.” More recently, it's come to mean using fake identities in a myriad of ways.

Article from the Washington Post:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/news/arts-and-entertainment/wp/2016/01/09/what-is-catfishing-a-brief-and-sordid-history/%3foutputType=amp

@Kinkpoet

To reiterate what ML has said, the MODS here are not paid.  It’s strictly a volunteer position which largely means reinforcing rules about: plagiarism, posting content that violates clear guidelines with regards sex, sexuality, race, culture, racial identity, beliefs & spiritual practices, political and or social concerns to name the broadest concerns.

And please be clear, MODS act primarily on reports by other members; and determinations to ban members temporarily or permanently are done by a consensus of the MODS once compounding evidence is provided to ensure impartial judgements are made.  

Given the political, social, health and economic issues of the day more debates between members have spawned than ever in my eight years here.  Some of it is healthy discourse, at other times it digresses into blatant personal attacks, birthing retaliatory “poems”  and members dividing into cliques with the sole purpose of shaming & degrading each other .... thus we Mods step in.

I must also add that ML and Craic are far more balanced than I with these “civil wars”; whereby they’ll ban a lone offender, there have been times when I wanted to ban certain agitators as well, as they only provided a Greek chorus to blatantly offensive remarks.  Thus, as I said ... decisions are made by consensus of the Moderators.

... I hope this helps, as I’m going out to stir up some “good trouble” today.  

Thank you Lobo--very well said