CO-PARENTING CONSTRUCTIVELY

The most important thing in the entire situation---are the CHILDREN;            
This means that regardless of everything: no bad mouthing or otherwise demeaning the other parent in front of THEM.            
       
Whether its true or not: find a way to reassure the child of the other parents' love for THEM;
And find an appropriate way to break the news---if in the event---the child will likely never see them AGAIN.            
             
For example, if the other parent was or was not ever really around or involved---and has since passed AWAY;            
I would advise you to inform your child---that mommy or daddy is now in heaven and is their personal guardian angel---watching over them EVERYDAY.    
            
For example, if the other parent was or was not ever really around or involved---and has sinced been sentenced to death or years in JAIL;            
I would advise you to inform your child---depending on their age and circumstances---that they can always still visit mommy or daddy---and if not---send letters and pics via the MAIL.            
For example, if the other parent was or was not ever really around or involved---and has since started another family and settled down---or perhaps has continued having multiple children with multiple people (try & try: no matter how hard it may be) to put aside any lingering ill-feelings of hatred, animosity or WRATH;            
And I would advise you to inform your child---that they and mommy are a family, they and daddy are a family,            
that they & the other parents' spouse & their children are also a family, and above all...both your children & the other parents biological children are equally loved by all parents---and that those children are now your children's brothers & sisters (no words like only their step or HALF).            
             
No one said that co-parenting would be easy---there's gonna be child support and custody battles---but dont let those battles turn into war (always be the bigger person and swallow your SPIT);            
Everyone's situation is different---some more dysfunctional than others---nevertheless co-parenting constructively (for the sake of the children) sometimes means supressing your pride and accepting certain unchangeable BULLS**T.            
             
The most important thing in the entire situation---are the CHILDREN;            
This means that regardless of everything: no bad mouthing or otherwise demeaning the other parent in front of THEM.