3 rules to loving a narcissist

Number 1: They will tell you that people change and that it will get better but it doesn’t, and it never will. Because narcissists do not love you unless it is directly beneficial to their own agenda, they do not love you unless your success can be credited to them. The worst part of growing up with a deadbeat dad is the way people look at you for the rest of your life. the people who grew up in happy homes will never understand how it feels to be stabbed in the back by the man who was supposed to be your first love. They will tear you apart, their words like daggers sinking into your veins, barbs hooking to your muscles and tearing at them when you try to pull them out. Number 2: They will tell you that they never meant to hurt you, that their own childhood was not easy and that their father was absent and you will insist that that was not how it had to be for you, but narcissists are good at making excuses for their actions. He will look at you and tell you about how his father left and never looked back, and you will plead with him to not do the same thing to you but to him there is no other choice. Number 3: Before you know it a year has passed and until today you have not heard anything meaningful from the scales that he calls lips spitting lies at you like poison. It burns, when he tells you that he loves you still and it stings when he says that you are still his daughter. Maybe, if you had been prettier, if you had been skinnier, if you had gotten an A on that assignment junior year instead of a B+, it would have been enough to be worthy of unconditional love. Instead his narcissism touched your skin and seeped into your pores like sunlight and scathed the brightest parts of your soul. If he had shown up to that winter concert, if he had been at that softball game, if he hadn’t been so caught up in blaming me for his faults, perhaps I would not have turned out so faulty.