self forgiveness in marriage  

 
I remember this quot from someplace, I don't know from where?
“the past hold no woman captive when those questions are answered and finds that man and that true love they were searching for in the wrong pasture”

the past can come and bite you no the ass
to many try to bury it then it always come back
or act like it never happened, yes it did
what ever you have when through or did
in childhood teens or adulthood  bare on everything
Murphy's law is head on full steam
all the bad things keeps surfacing making thing ugly  
the devil love all those secretes, not in the details
pick and choose what you want to tell your spouse
the key thing before you begin develop that trust
doubt guilt and lack of trust is the death of love
so is he lack of facts, forgiveness, and shown regret
what is need is trust honor and respect
in yourself and your spouse the best foundation to build
let each other know your love is real,
affirmation, empathy, and remember your not perfect
and counseling if all else isn't working
you didn't pick wrong it just takes two to make it work