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Relationships: Option 1
"Relationships: Option 1" by Gal E. Cohen
The words that pass the time
The actions that pass the feelings
The rhythm can’t match the time
The time can’t stand the healing
The truth is not denied
You say only what you mean
You point out, you try
But no direction to lean
So alone you stand
And alone you sleep
Hold your heart in your hand
And burry it deep
The words that pass the time
The actions that pass the feelings
The rhythm can’t match the time
The time can’t stand the healing
The truth is not denied
You say only what you mean
You point out, you try
But no direction to lean
So alone you stand
And alone you sleep
Hold your heart in your hand
And burry it deep
Published 9th Nov 2011
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9th Nov 2011 5:38pm
Your expression in words is matched only by the length of the expression on your face. A frown longer than the photo longer than the poem that reaches to the depth of your heart. I feel the words and have worn that frown. Although we will never meet, I know your heart. A poem can receive no congratulations that could heal the wounds of it's inspiration, but if the photo is worth a thousands words, then it's wealth can only be measured as priceless.
JJ
JJ
12th Nov 2011 10:28am
This isn't a recent poem, it's from the past. It reminds me of the pains that somehow I seemed to enjoy. I don't regret them, for they molded me into what I am, and I love it :) so this is why it's only option 1 in a relationship. Thank you
9th Nov 2011 7:31pm
before you can compliment another
you have to take yourself further
into the abyss of your own heart
because if Love is true thats where it must start
so the 1st option is always to Love yourself
otherwise you can never experience Love's true wealth....
gr8 post gal....;)
you have to take yourself further
into the abyss of your own heart
because if Love is true thats where it must start
so the 1st option is always to Love yourself
otherwise you can never experience Love's true wealth....
gr8 post gal....;)
12th Nov 2011 10:31am
Thank you for your wise words :) I will take myself further as I have in the past, it heals everything and makes smiles light up on faces dear to me, as well as mine. I am still searching for what we call "true love" though both my head and my heart are pushing me towards thinking I've already had it, and lost it. I'm ready to experience that wealth! Thank you
12th Nov 2011 10:25pm
Being ready is one quarter of the battle. I'm still searching at 48. It's a slippery slope when you keep meeting people you think are the one and then realize they are not ready for true love. Then you have to hope you are as compatible to each other as the attraction that drew you together in the first place. The divorce rate is evidense enough as to the difficulty. I don't know how my parents stayed together for over 50 years until death did them part. I can only think of two couples I know who married in their early 20's who are still married 25 years later. I've always wanted to be married but never met the one I felt had a clue what true love is. Of course, now that I look back on that dusty old road, maybe it was me that didn't get it. Maybe it's true that all you need is love, after all, when you start injecting all the philosophy of love into a relationship, can any two people live up to the expectations of pure love?
18th Nov 2011 3:21pm
What are the other three-quarters? I'm so curious to learn from experienced people as yourself. Love isn't about getting married for me yet. I think its about living in the moment, and thinking what you have is everything you need.
19th Nov 2011 6:57am
As someone who has never been married, I am not as experienced as you might think at 48.
"thinking what you have is everything you need" reminded me of an Elton John song, "All That I'm Allowed". Of course Bernie Taupin wrote the words and we must give the poet credit where it is due.
If being ready is one quarter of the battle, then meeting the right person gets you about half way there. But that's when it gets more complex. There are so many unknown factors that come from the other one, so you have to hope you are both on the same page. What if it's the one but the one is not ready? The one thing you can be sure of, if there are aspects of someones personality that you don't like, learn to accept them as a part of the whole. People are resistent to change and trying to get someone to become someone they are not will break down a relationship faster than cheating.
People want to be accepted for who they are, so it becomes more than nagging to try and change them, it becomes insulting. No one wants to hear that the person they are does not live up to the standards and expectations of someone they are falling in love with. On the other hand, everyone wants to be told they are perfect just the way they are, so I can't emphasize enough the importance of being flexable and confident in yourself as well.
As someone who has dealt with issues of self-esteem, it becomes all the more important to be accepted for who I am. My parents used to tell me, "why can't you be more like your brothers" and various other variances on that theme. All it did was make me angry at them and keep us distant. It works the same in a relationship, but don't stroke the ego, build self-esteem. They are two different things and ego is just a root for arrogance to grow out of. Arrogance leads to control, look for a confident person who is able to allow you to be yourself, otherwise it will be you that is being told to change, that something about you isn't good enough.
That should get you 75% there. Then there's love. Yea, the key ingrediant and the hardest one to find. I am definately not the person to ask about love. Never been there and been fooled into believing I was in it so many times I have no right to utter its name.
So there you have it, just follow your heart because anything I say is just a lot of mumbo jumbo and wishful thinking. You never get too old to wish, but even if you get lucky and the wish is granted, by the time you get to my age, the wish becomes that I want to be young enough to enjoy it and have 50 years to share it. I think whoever said "The grass is always greener on the other side" must have been an old man just like me.
JJ
"thinking what you have is everything you need" reminded me of an Elton John song, "All That I'm Allowed". Of course Bernie Taupin wrote the words and we must give the poet credit where it is due.
If being ready is one quarter of the battle, then meeting the right person gets you about half way there. But that's when it gets more complex. There are so many unknown factors that come from the other one, so you have to hope you are both on the same page. What if it's the one but the one is not ready? The one thing you can be sure of, if there are aspects of someones personality that you don't like, learn to accept them as a part of the whole. People are resistent to change and trying to get someone to become someone they are not will break down a relationship faster than cheating.
People want to be accepted for who they are, so it becomes more than nagging to try and change them, it becomes insulting. No one wants to hear that the person they are does not live up to the standards and expectations of someone they are falling in love with. On the other hand, everyone wants to be told they are perfect just the way they are, so I can't emphasize enough the importance of being flexable and confident in yourself as well.
As someone who has dealt with issues of self-esteem, it becomes all the more important to be accepted for who I am. My parents used to tell me, "why can't you be more like your brothers" and various other variances on that theme. All it did was make me angry at them and keep us distant. It works the same in a relationship, but don't stroke the ego, build self-esteem. They are two different things and ego is just a root for arrogance to grow out of. Arrogance leads to control, look for a confident person who is able to allow you to be yourself, otherwise it will be you that is being told to change, that something about you isn't good enough.
That should get you 75% there. Then there's love. Yea, the key ingrediant and the hardest one to find. I am definately not the person to ask about love. Never been there and been fooled into believing I was in it so many times I have no right to utter its name.
So there you have it, just follow your heart because anything I say is just a lot of mumbo jumbo and wishful thinking. You never get too old to wish, but even if you get lucky and the wish is granted, by the time you get to my age, the wish becomes that I want to be young enough to enjoy it and have 50 years to share it. I think whoever said "The grass is always greener on the other side" must have been an old man just like me.
JJ
19th Nov 2011 9:06pm
I read everything, word by word, and I took it all in. Thank you! I think in a way I understand myself better, and the whole idea of "love"....
21st Nov 2011 6:35pm
HA! I should have warned you, I have a tendency to be long-winded. This could be the shortest post you ever see from me... jj
22nd Nov 2011 2:03pm
