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Men: A User's Guide Chapter Seven / Questions E
When will he stop doing that?
Men have been doing this for the last 50,000 years: Get comfortable with a process, use it as long as it works, then die. Of course this is really a human thing, but men have a much deeper process in mind. Women need men, really need them, for only one thing. If the "L" Word has taught us anything, and it has many lessons, it is that a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle, except if you need sperm. This will soon not be true, but for now, it still holds water.
Men operate on a simply dynamic: Duplicate what works. They love success. If fucking makes babies that can then make more men to do more work and get more done and make more babies, then fucking it is. The reason they care about that is that they are in the lineage of that process; it is what made them. So, men want to continue the lineage of men who made them, and they do this by accessing the best stock available to do the job. It is not about love at this level; it is about cloning themselves.
Now, the sadder true about this is that men are essentially broken women. Women are complete genetically, XX, and men are broken women, XY….and the broken part of that genetics is what men bring to the table. You have about a 50/50 chance of being male. In the short run, what this means is that men are incomplete and need completing on many levels. Men are the second sex. Men are one leg short of being whole. This is why having a cock is so damned important and when it does not work all hell breaks loose.
His image of himself as a man may be the most important aspect of his life. Lesbians are less showy about their sexuality than gay men are…they want a fucking parade…and they call it PRIDE! Astronauts, parade. Olympic athletes, parade. War heroes, parade. Hell's Angels, life is a parade. Football, parade. Thanksgiving, 4th of July, Christmas, Son of God, Easter, Founding fathers, the fatherland, Chronos, Zeus, Jupiter, Julius Caesar, and a horde of guys and male holidays. Girls got, Mother Nature, Sister Theresa, Mother Mary, and Queen Latifah. No, gay Pride is about boys doing it again.
The major question is if being a woman is the worst a man can be or have or get, then why aren't all men gay? Socrates was not gay, per se, he did like to "wrestle" and fool around. The Greeks got into some kinky shit, but they did not dwell on it. What I find so interesting about all of this is when men go to jail, they get so horny that they will actually fuck each other. I say this so crassly because they do not merely masturbate, they have full on penetration. These are supposedly guys that under normal circumstances would never ever no way not going to happen, Hey, are you in for 30 to life? Me too! No, guys just want to bang, and they do that by subjugation. Whatever it is. And that thinking has overrun everything they get into.
They will act like they do not see anything but that thing they are attending to, mainly because it is true! We kid about it: If I can't eat it or fuck it, forget it! Let's parse that out: Survival by sustenance or by genetics. Is his life in danger? Is this going to affect his eating or fucking? So, what does he care about your lace hanging curtain rods and frilly shit; is this going to affect his eating or his fucking? This is sad, but it is true. Other than that he needs to be practicing for his manhood stuff like battles and chopping off heads and stabbing people who are attacking, and he does that by watching sports, going hunting, and by riding his various vehicles. A man is a support mechanism for a dick. Essentially then, he is a dick.
Now, let's rewrite that question. When will he stop being a dick? Well, this is a very tough question. IF you need him to be all crying and feeling centered and emotional, feed him hormones, like estrogen. He is hard wired to be callous and rude and mean and aggressive and hard edged and demanding under fire. On the other side, does he have to be such a self-righteous and pompous ass hole about it?
This is all a function of the Wolf Pack. As soon as the Bat signal is sent out, your man better stand and be counted or he will be left out, and he knows it. He will not be able to remain neutral unless he is very strong. Alpha males are the cheerleaders of the Wolf Pack. They get everyone screaming for blood. You notice that there are Alpha males, more than one, and they keep themselves in check since a fight between them is usually fatal. They threaten with lethal force. And those who don't do as told are themselves eliminated. We live in such relative safety that we have become totally dull sensed, but in feudal Japan, the assassins would be on your roof, down your walls, and in your bed as soon as you broke ranks.
Sadly too, we have a culture of men who want guns to protect themselves from the government. First we gave them the best armed forces in the world. Maybe in the galaxy, and then we want guns to keep them back. Really? They have an army of drones that can be fired from air craft carriers and end up 1000 miles away and then shot a bullet within a square inch of their intended target. They can fire missiles. The US government has thousands of nuclear weapons and one of the largest stockpiles of chemical weapons anywhere. Men are full of shit sometimes. Yes, you need guns, but they will not help you against the United States Federal Government.
Okay, so the answer is, he is going to continue to do whatever it is until he is told by his commanding officer, an umpire, his boss, or his father, to stop. Other than that, you will have to make him believe that it is a part of the man's world to do whatever it is, if you want it changed. If he is doing something annoying, and he thinks it is okay, then why would he change? Would you let him pick out your next hair style or give you a tattoo? Oh, hell no.
Men have been doing this for the last 50,000 years: Get comfortable with a process, use it as long as it works, then die. Of course this is really a human thing, but men have a much deeper process in mind. Women need men, really need them, for only one thing. If the "L" Word has taught us anything, and it has many lessons, it is that a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle, except if you need sperm. This will soon not be true, but for now, it still holds water.
Men operate on a simply dynamic: Duplicate what works. They love success. If fucking makes babies that can then make more men to do more work and get more done and make more babies, then fucking it is. The reason they care about that is that they are in the lineage of that process; it is what made them. So, men want to continue the lineage of men who made them, and they do this by accessing the best stock available to do the job. It is not about love at this level; it is about cloning themselves.
Now, the sadder true about this is that men are essentially broken women. Women are complete genetically, XX, and men are broken women, XY….and the broken part of that genetics is what men bring to the table. You have about a 50/50 chance of being male. In the short run, what this means is that men are incomplete and need completing on many levels. Men are the second sex. Men are one leg short of being whole. This is why having a cock is so damned important and when it does not work all hell breaks loose.
His image of himself as a man may be the most important aspect of his life. Lesbians are less showy about their sexuality than gay men are…they want a fucking parade…and they call it PRIDE! Astronauts, parade. Olympic athletes, parade. War heroes, parade. Hell's Angels, life is a parade. Football, parade. Thanksgiving, 4th of July, Christmas, Son of God, Easter, Founding fathers, the fatherland, Chronos, Zeus, Jupiter, Julius Caesar, and a horde of guys and male holidays. Girls got, Mother Nature, Sister Theresa, Mother Mary, and Queen Latifah. No, gay Pride is about boys doing it again.
The major question is if being a woman is the worst a man can be or have or get, then why aren't all men gay? Socrates was not gay, per se, he did like to "wrestle" and fool around. The Greeks got into some kinky shit, but they did not dwell on it. What I find so interesting about all of this is when men go to jail, they get so horny that they will actually fuck each other. I say this so crassly because they do not merely masturbate, they have full on penetration. These are supposedly guys that under normal circumstances would never ever no way not going to happen, Hey, are you in for 30 to life? Me too! No, guys just want to bang, and they do that by subjugation. Whatever it is. And that thinking has overrun everything they get into.
They will act like they do not see anything but that thing they are attending to, mainly because it is true! We kid about it: If I can't eat it or fuck it, forget it! Let's parse that out: Survival by sustenance or by genetics. Is his life in danger? Is this going to affect his eating or fucking? So, what does he care about your lace hanging curtain rods and frilly shit; is this going to affect his eating or his fucking? This is sad, but it is true. Other than that he needs to be practicing for his manhood stuff like battles and chopping off heads and stabbing people who are attacking, and he does that by watching sports, going hunting, and by riding his various vehicles. A man is a support mechanism for a dick. Essentially then, he is a dick.
Now, let's rewrite that question. When will he stop being a dick? Well, this is a very tough question. IF you need him to be all crying and feeling centered and emotional, feed him hormones, like estrogen. He is hard wired to be callous and rude and mean and aggressive and hard edged and demanding under fire. On the other side, does he have to be such a self-righteous and pompous ass hole about it?
This is all a function of the Wolf Pack. As soon as the Bat signal is sent out, your man better stand and be counted or he will be left out, and he knows it. He will not be able to remain neutral unless he is very strong. Alpha males are the cheerleaders of the Wolf Pack. They get everyone screaming for blood. You notice that there are Alpha males, more than one, and they keep themselves in check since a fight between them is usually fatal. They threaten with lethal force. And those who don't do as told are themselves eliminated. We live in such relative safety that we have become totally dull sensed, but in feudal Japan, the assassins would be on your roof, down your walls, and in your bed as soon as you broke ranks.
Sadly too, we have a culture of men who want guns to protect themselves from the government. First we gave them the best armed forces in the world. Maybe in the galaxy, and then we want guns to keep them back. Really? They have an army of drones that can be fired from air craft carriers and end up 1000 miles away and then shot a bullet within a square inch of their intended target. They can fire missiles. The US government has thousands of nuclear weapons and one of the largest stockpiles of chemical weapons anywhere. Men are full of shit sometimes. Yes, you need guns, but they will not help you against the United States Federal Government.
Okay, so the answer is, he is going to continue to do whatever it is until he is told by his commanding officer, an umpire, his boss, or his father, to stop. Other than that, you will have to make him believe that it is a part of the man's world to do whatever it is, if you want it changed. If he is doing something annoying, and he thinks it is okay, then why would he change? Would you let him pick out your next hair style or give you a tattoo? Oh, hell no.
Published 18th Sep 2013
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18th Sep 2013 9:09pm
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18th Sep 2013 9:15pm
Just letting you know . I'm enjoying these readings .Are you putting together a book?
18th Sep 2013 9:38pm
I'm condensing the 100,000 words I wrote last summer on this to review the ideas and then put it together. I needed another reader...So I guess that is you. Help me by allowing me to see what you are seeing if it is helpful or off. Thanks.
19th Sep 2013 7:08am
This seems like it must not be so; look at all the kindnesses in the world. I know this seems like a very awkward statement. Yet, all of chivalry asks men to do the harder tasks: war, lifting, execution, physical labor in mines and forests...men get the most demanding tasks by nature of what is required from them. As such they must have an endurance that is specialized to their environment. Their biochemicals are nearly on the surface. Men are more prone to mental illnesses, all manner of addictions,
death by violence, and stress. Women are more likely to make it through being born and they live longer. The toll on men is incredible, and for this life gives them the edge on things with the two edged testosterone: it is the fury of a man. He can be ruthless and engaging. Where do we see gangs of women, or armies of women, or social unrest like teams of women after a sporting event that will knock over cars and burn them. Men, on average, are more fit for rage and destruction and this is a nature they fight their entire lives. Not all men, and yet some women. 95% of all prisoners are male. Men commit suicide by gun more often. In every area of self-abuse, men are the leaders. And the more we force women to think and act like men, the more they tend to catch up. Men must be taught kindness and tenderness. Women must be taught not to fight fire with fire...it just pushes them further from themselves.
death by violence, and stress. Women are more likely to make it through being born and they live longer. The toll on men is incredible, and for this life gives them the edge on things with the two edged testosterone: it is the fury of a man. He can be ruthless and engaging. Where do we see gangs of women, or armies of women, or social unrest like teams of women after a sporting event that will knock over cars and burn them. Men, on average, are more fit for rage and destruction and this is a nature they fight their entire lives. Not all men, and yet some women. 95% of all prisoners are male. Men commit suicide by gun more often. In every area of self-abuse, men are the leaders. And the more we force women to think and act like men, the more they tend to catch up. Men must be taught kindness and tenderness. Women must be taught not to fight fire with fire...it just pushes them further from themselves.
26th Sep 2013 6:07am
I have been voraciously reading your take on all these things and today I wanted to comment at length but now it got late again and I will have to put it off until tomorrow. If you have ever watched "My big fat greek wedding" there is a part where the mother tells the daughter: "The man is the head of the house, but the woman is the neck and she can turn the head anyway she wants." I am not sure that I see it entirely that way but for some reason it always stuck in my mind. :)
