To the uninformed and unintelligent;

 
This is not a piece of myself which is incongruous with the rest of me, it's simply a piece of myself, like any other. And I absolutely refuse to be ashamed of, or feel guilty for, it. No, the fact that you didn't know about it until now does not prove that I was hiding it; there are many things you don't know about me. I bet you didn't know that my favorite colors are muddy green and brown, or that I'm a Scorpio, yet I've never spent a sleepless night wracked with worry that someone might find out the horrible secret that I was born in the later half of October. I don't know what you expect, but people generally don't introduce themselves by saying; 'hi, my name is _________, and here's a list of everything I enjoy in the bedroom!'

And yet I am still the same person I was when we first met. Nothing about me/my personality has changed, so you saying things like; 'gee, you always seemed so shy and inexperienced!' is ridiculous. I most certainly am both those things! There are, besides the aforementioned unchanged state or me, two reasons that statement both alarms and disappoints me, while simultaneously showing how... intellectually and morally lacking you are. First is that it implies that every single person with the preferences I have, of which there are many, are all wanton harlots. No, just because we like a certain thing does not mean we like everyone else that does as well. That would be like saying a straight male will be attracted to, and sleep with, every female he meets. Or that all hockey fans will root for the same team, or for every team equally. Second, and more alarmingly still, is that with one statement and the tone with which you delivered it, you've managed to foist onto the entirety of the human race your own personal bias that monogamy is the be all end all of relationships. This alarms me even more than the first point because it shows that you can't even come to the logical conclusion that what works for one person does not necessarily work for everyone. There are entire cultures in the world that don't practice monogamy, so if it works for you, that is fabulous, but trying to press it as the morally correct option is ignorant, bigoted, and closed minded.

Focusing back on individuals, now. Perhaps this part of me seems incongruous to you, but no part of a person is ever truly is. If a person has a predilection for something, then either events in their past, or something in their genes, is there to explain it. If a part of a person seems to not fit with the rest of them, that's only because you can't see all the pieces.







(..A bit of a rant..)