Thanks. One of many ironies in S&M. Like the submissive is really the one in control via the use of the safe word. Belated Happy Birthday! Hope you survived Friday the 13th ...
This is perfect.. It is so important, the subtle dance of trust and fear on both sides, for me the thought patterns we undergo are probably the most important part of any s/m relationship. the dom should be as scared of how far he could go as the sub, terrified of their own enslavement to what's on the table... rack, hook.