Sin, Naughtiness, Taboos, and Immorality

There is a certain dialectic within the erotica community that wavers on a very thin blade, the idea that what we discuss or are fascinated by is somehow wrong or bad or disdained by the general population due to religion, social mores, family values, and cultural behavior rules.  The interest here is that there seems to be an added fascination with being naughty, that is breaking the rules as we perceive them, and getting a sort of added kick out of knowing that we are rebelling against these dogmas.

To some, any particular movement, revealing, or titillation may be seen as something that is somehow risqué or taboo, and so this is to be avoided at all costs, and to others the very discomfort of those who would like to apply these standards of "decency" is in fact the very substance of their being turned on sexually.  Your discomfort or intolerance turns me on, maybe like an arsonist likes to masturbate while watching the fire he set.  Certainly, some people get a very hard turn on by teasing others sexually, taunting them, or otherwise pushing their buttons.  I would not be surprised if bullies did not go home after a hard day of fucking with everyone and beat their meat into cinders.

The particular concept I want to get to though is this idea of the word "naughty."  I don't subscribe to the concept of sin, as in there is a God out in the Universe who is like Santa Clause and he is making diligent notes concerning our sticking to some strict guidelines of behavioral practice, especially whether or not we are adhering to some standardization of form or fetishizationalism.  Just fucking get off, please.  I am cock sure that if anything, God is saying, "Now THAT was the way an orgasm was intended to work; good blow job, Holly!"

Why in the universe would the all-knowing, all-powerful, all-loving God of the Universe think to himself, "Oh, no, not in the ass again!  Can't you guys get this right? It is Tab A into Slot B. Sheesh!"  More likely, he is up out in there saying, "10 bonus points for originality; that was some really creative stuff…..everyone pay attention to Rick and Bob; they know how to do it with style!"

This entire idea of things being naughty, outside the norm, in order to have elevating levels of sexual energy seems a completely big waste of time mind game to me.  Yes, I think the mind, the brain, is the biggest and most powerful sex organ and whatever we can do to trick it into being on line so that we can cum is of course a worthy cause, but to blame our lack of prowess on insecurity and fatigue and hunger and stress and boredom is more honest than saying you don't say those naughty things, or don't talk dirty to me……rather, let's be brutally honest. Just say what you want and then allow it to be what it is.  Suck my thumb!  Fan my clit like a turbine.  I want it here or need it there.  By all means be graphic as hell and twice as hot, but don't blame it on God or put yourself into moral bind or think that God is going to be mad at you for getting off however you do. He invented this shit, if he exists. You don't think he knew that would do that?

I do not see anything as naughty or sinful or immoral.  Pollution can be criminal.  Corporate espionage is a social outrage.  Some things that people do to each other are lacking in empathy and can be characterized as cruel and sadistic in the extreme.  But if you need to be fingered, ass spanked, gagged with a cock, tied up, stood on with spike heels, licked into unconsciousness, ass fucked, or put in a cage and led by a collar, then more power to you if you can find someone to accommodate you.  If I remember, in Deep Throat, Linda Lovelace's character had her clit nine inches down here throat.  That is a matter of the genetic code implanting in her the need for a 10 inch cock. If God had not wanted that, he had control over that to begin with.  That this is a matter of voyeuristic evocativeness, and therefore exploitable by the naughtiness crowd is a matter of record. It should have been on the Discovery Channel.

As a matter of record, I have written with many people on DU, and one thing that I always have to go through is this one point. I am not going to talk about anything naughty.  I don't believe in naughtiness.  I do believe in affection and healthy sexual stimulation and getting your rocks off.  I don't believe in sin as a matter of our pissing off  God.  Are people mean sometimes, yes.  Do I wish I were more thoughtful of the feelings of others, for sure.  Do I think that masturbation or fucking or sucking or licking or any form of sexual practice among consenting adults is okay?  

I want to be perfectly clear. I am sure that right now in your own mind you are asking a billion questions about this or that interaction between two people. And I am sure that someone will come up with something that will be so outrageous that it would seem beyond the pale to even consider it as not naughty. I am sure of it.  And you can think that way. I do not mind. You are free to torture the shit out of yourself. Whatever gets you off.  But, for me, friction, intimacy, interdependence, closeness, proximity, sharing confidences, being naked, athletic prowess in the bedroom….these are states of human interaction.  If you want pornography, take a look at banking, war, and poverty.  If sin existed, that is where you would find God shaking his head and going, "WTF?"

I am not now, nor have I ever been a member of the American Heretic Party.  I do not need an added thrill or get a boost from stressing my adrenaline by denying myself the pleasure of biochemically accessing my natural hormonal pathways.  When in the presence of my lover, either digitally or in proximity, I tune in, I am turned on, and I am fully in favor of meeting needs as stated without my having to reference any system of behavior or standard of practice.  Erotica is not naughty or evil or ugly or in anyway not the most human and delicate of all interactions, other than giving birth and caring for the dying.  I will not be ashamed of my touching and/or being intimate with another human being.

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