In life competition teaches people you win or lose.
Sometimes even in life you don't get to choose.
However, in a relationship that shouldn't be the case.
If they make you feel second choice you need more then space.
If your always feeling like last place in their life.
Maybe what you need to rethink your husband or wife.
You should always fell like their first option.
Other then your children might be the only exception.
No point in giving your life totally.
For a person to reciprocate hopefully.
No point in living for someone at all.
If they live for anyone who give them attention or even a five minute call.