There are never adequate words
to describe the loss of a child—
that is what you must realize
when extending sympathies
Each child is individual, unique
in their own respective existence;
there is an emptiness regardless
of how many siblings remain
Things not to say to a mother
grieving the death of her child:
"At least you have more children"
"At least you have the other twin"
"Did he just die, or commit suicide?"
"At least you had years with him;
some lose them at birth,
or can have none at all"
and so forth
Please, shut up—
for futue reference:
things to say to a mother
grieving the loss of her child:
"My deepest condolences [ stop ]"
"My heartfelt condolences [ stop ]"
"You are in my prayers [ stop ]"
"If there is anything I can do. . .[ stop ]"
"I am here for you [ stop ]"
"He was the sweetest boy,
I loved his [ smile, laugh, jokes, etc ] [ stop ]"
There are no adequate words
when a mother loses a child—
don't make it about yourself;
and, if nothing else
please, know when to stop