Dear Daddies - Mammafactured Opposition

"She's a traitor, and that's why." A man said about his own precious  adult daughter, hearing from a third party how she disrespected and back-stabbed her own mother habitually as a teenager. Such triggering information is hard to absorb.  
     
If your wife is attacked by your own child, the child she birthed for you, it will not be easy, or even possible for you to be okay with that kid, if my personal observations mean anything. It's not easy to get along with anyone like that, let alone your own seed.      
     
Is it your fault? Who will ever know if you contributed to their bad behavior? That's an ache no one can soothe away. Every mistake you ever made will fly back at you. Every idea you used to have, every thing you ever did will seem questionable. Even the victims of your child (bad kids always have multiple victims) will come up as sharing possible responsibility, especially if they were older role models... everything will stink.    
     
Sorting it all out and making peace with your reaction is the hardest thing. Protecting your dependent victims from further harm could be as easy as a stalking order, or as hard as being forced to raise or live around the perpetrator and victims while doing the job of "raising Cain," but ultimately, the hardest thing isn't protecting victims, it's recovering your sense of purpose and belonging.    
     
To do that you have to separate your accountability and self from your children. You should anyway. They answer for their defiance of you themselves, to God and man.