To listen or not to listen...a dialogue
"How are you?"
"I had a tough day today...felt anxious about money and how to pay for-"
"I know, I know....you should start meditating. Meditation will help you to be more in the moment and help you trust everything will be ok."
"Maybe....however there are some things in my life that need action, otherwise things get more-"
"Well, when I feel that way I sit back and make a list of things that need to be done and go step by step....that usually works, you know..."
"I know that and I was just about to say it.... I already wrote a bunch of things down and then yesterday-"
"By the way....also, sometimes....oh, I remember back in 1985 we moved to a new appartment and things where tight and and I almost lost my cool because Me and my husband started to stress out to much...that's when I learned about eating right. How is your diet? Are you eating right?"
"Eating...? Yes I eat-"
"I mean healthy? Do you eat the right foods, like organic vegetables.... I discovered that my mind works much better when I get the right nutrients....do you have any allergies?"
"Allergies...? No I don't think so.... I have always eaten healthy, I mean that's 101 right...
Look, I get the sense that you-"
"How about exercise...? Do you exercise enough. That really helps with depression and anxiety. Maybe you can start a yoga class or pilates, that really helped me with my back pain....and by the way, that's where I met my good friend Sandy...she is such a good friend. You know Sandy has this cute little dog that she adopted...."
"Listen, I don't want to hear about Sandy and her Dog... I am feeling anxious and-"
"You are indulging and you haven't been listening to me. I just gave you a few pearls of wisdom...you don't seem to appreciate that. You want to hold on to your negativity...."
"I have been listening to you for the whole time. You keep cutting me off in mid sentence and you go on about yourself...on and on you go-"
"I am just trying to help...there is lots you can learn from a person who is a bit older than you. What has happened to respecting the elders? People get wise as they get older...back in the days we were listened to by the younger ones....they learned from us-"
"Good damn, You asked me how I was doing and I tried to tell you... I didn't ask for advice, I just share what's going on...but you don't even-"
"Hey, now you are getting angry at me....what's that gonna accomplish? You might want to consider a change in some of your attitudes. I often find it works better to have a good laugh than to take things too hard.... I was just trying to-"
"May I politely interrupt you....? I think I had enough. I have things to do. Bye now!"