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not a poem - question for the open minded
It turned out to be a waste of time after all. Oh well, live and learn again and again and again...
JJ
JJ
Published 21st Jun 2015
| Edited 25th Jun 2015
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21st Jun 2015 5:10am
NO "JJ-bashing " ever here hun ;)
open-minded me speaketh to you..
Not into this but *not against it for everyone
else. the "to each their own" for finding happiness & comfort applies here. We all
deserve that in life..off top m'head..
#1 be safe..I think it sounds like u are just
by asking fer such a versatile set of feed-backs.
#2 don't believe *anything til you can prove
it.
then go with the pics)
#3 don't be so nice, then feel it out & give as you get then.(pic-wise) ..always start guarded.
#4 have fun, if it goes well, great & if not,
remember you're there to hv adult fun & were safe (rule #1).
*& maybe #5 invest in a svc where u can verify
identity or leat gender?
be welz & good luck to you!
~d
open-minded me speaketh to you..
Not into this but *not against it for everyone
else. the "to each their own" for finding happiness & comfort applies here. We all
deserve that in life..off top m'head..
#1 be safe..I think it sounds like u are just
by asking fer such a versatile set of feed-backs.
#2 don't believe *anything til you can prove
it.
then go with the pics)
#3 don't be so nice, then feel it out & give as you get then.(pic-wise) ..always start guarded.
#4 have fun, if it goes well, great & if not,
remember you're there to hv adult fun & were safe (rule #1).
*& maybe #5 invest in a svc where u can verify
identity or leat gender?
be welz & good luck to you!
~d
21st Jun 2015 6:35am
Ahhh, Poetryman, luv ~ :-*
Do be careful. Tis my considered thought that investing in a throwaway phone may be a good idea for anyone engaging in online dating. This way should someone turn out to be less than savory, then that person does not have direct access to you or your information easily. Much can be found through phone numbers, so this seems a reasonable precaution to me though, mayhap tis a bit overly cautious.
As far as online dating interaction in general is concerned, if tis a relationship you seek, mayhap 'twill be more difficult on a site catering mainly to sexual gratification to find such a thing. However, if sex alone is what you seek, it seems an appropriate venue. Darksighs makes excellent points though I'll not reiterate them so as not to engage in redundancy.
As for relationships, mayhap an online dating site that's free would avoid some of the issues you seem to have encountered in the past; mayhap I'm wrong, but I'm intuiting that expectations have been unrealistic previously and wonder if that might be different were money uninvolved, if there was a dating site paid membership of some sort in play.
Mayhap, I've missed the mark here, luv. If so, I apologize, sincerely. :-*
Do be careful. Tis my considered thought that investing in a throwaway phone may be a good idea for anyone engaging in online dating. This way should someone turn out to be less than savory, then that person does not have direct access to you or your information easily. Much can be found through phone numbers, so this seems a reasonable precaution to me though, mayhap tis a bit overly cautious.
As far as online dating interaction in general is concerned, if tis a relationship you seek, mayhap 'twill be more difficult on a site catering mainly to sexual gratification to find such a thing. However, if sex alone is what you seek, it seems an appropriate venue. Darksighs makes excellent points though I'll not reiterate them so as not to engage in redundancy.
As for relationships, mayhap an online dating site that's free would avoid some of the issues you seem to have encountered in the past; mayhap I'm wrong, but I'm intuiting that expectations have been unrealistic previously and wonder if that might be different were money uninvolved, if there was a dating site paid membership of some sort in play.
Mayhap, I've missed the mark here, luv. If so, I apologize, sincerely. :-*
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- Edited 21st Jun 2015 11:13am
21st Jun 2015 11:03am
ugh moral preaching, damn it to hell...
... there are ways and means to safeguard yourself against online fakes/predators etc. mind you, my opinion is from a female pov as i'm of the penis-less persuasion lol
*
i've been a member of a popular bdsm "social media" called fetlife for more than four years now [&] but it's really just a glorified dating site. it's not a bad option if you keep your wits about you. i've met two wonderful play partners for casual play and we're still good friends since parting ways. i also met someone who wasn't at all what they portrayed themself to be [didn't look at all like his photo, not an ab in sight lol] and more seriously someone who sexually assaulted me...
... naturally, most if not all the photos there nudes in varying degrees of classy to "how the hell did you put your foot there".
while most people are honest enough to post their own images, some trawl porn sites & think they can get away with pretending they're rain de grey lol this is where you just have to play detective & use a reverse image search like tineye to sift through the lies
i find reading profiles also helps. fakes rarely take the time to fill in their "about me" properly or any of the other sections of their profile. sure,
some people are just fecking lazy but that's usually a sign that something's not kosher.
spelling, grammar, the way words are used can also indicate who/what you're dealing with. some profiles are spambots & those are easy to spot. i think by now everyone knows how a nigerian scam artist writes lol so just keep an eye on that too.
check them out on social media. google their name & see what pops up & what doesn't. it sounds a little psycho i know but better safe than scammed or sorry.
i'm not sure if it's polite to ask for references in vanilla dating/hook ups. but if it's okay, you should ask if anyone on the site can vouch for who & what they are. be it someone they met for coffee or fucked or whatever.
eg. i have play partners, former owners, leather family & friends who i have met, scened with or know me from the local munches & dungeons. if someone wanted to speak to them about my style of play etc it wouldn't offend me in the least because i'd be doing the same
i don't know if that's at all helpful but it's my two cents :)
have fun!
... there are ways and means to safeguard yourself against online fakes/predators etc. mind you, my opinion is from a female pov as i'm of the penis-less persuasion lol
*
i've been a member of a popular bdsm "social media" called fetlife for more than four years now [&] but it's really just a glorified dating site. it's not a bad option if you keep your wits about you. i've met two wonderful play partners for casual play and we're still good friends since parting ways. i also met someone who wasn't at all what they portrayed themself to be [didn't look at all like his photo, not an ab in sight lol] and more seriously someone who sexually assaulted me...
... naturally, most if not all the photos there nudes in varying degrees of classy to "how the hell did you put your foot there".
while most people are honest enough to post their own images, some trawl porn sites & think they can get away with pretending they're rain de grey lol this is where you just have to play detective & use a reverse image search like tineye to sift through the lies
i find reading profiles also helps. fakes rarely take the time to fill in their "about me" properly or any of the other sections of their profile. sure,
some people are just fecking lazy but that's usually a sign that something's not kosher.
spelling, grammar, the way words are used can also indicate who/what you're dealing with. some profiles are spambots & those are easy to spot. i think by now everyone knows how a nigerian scam artist writes lol so just keep an eye on that too.
check them out on social media. google their name & see what pops up & what doesn't. it sounds a little psycho i know but better safe than scammed or sorry.
i'm not sure if it's polite to ask for references in vanilla dating/hook ups. but if it's okay, you should ask if anyone on the site can vouch for who & what they are. be it someone they met for coffee or fucked or whatever.
eg. i have play partners, former owners, leather family & friends who i have met, scened with or know me from the local munches & dungeons. if someone wanted to speak to them about my style of play etc it wouldn't offend me in the least because i'd be doing the same
i don't know if that's at all helpful but it's my two cents :)
have fun!
