You know how sometimes you get a new thing, and then all of a sudden you start noticing all the other people who have that same thing...? We humans tend to look for connections and think things are about us when they're not.
There are literally thousands of people on DUP. I find that a good way to avoid being hurt or annoyed is to assume that stuff I read here is not about me. Maybe every poem on DUP should be automatically stamped with that movie disclaimer, "Any resemblance to real people or events is purely coincidental"... or whatever it says.
Would that help?
The mods have plenty to do. I can't even imagine volunteering for that. Thanks for all that you do behind the scenes.