To Like or Not To Like (that may be question & a 1/2)

61.54% • 16 votes • Oblivious = Bliss (Equal opportunity Social)
30.77% • 8 votes • It would be helpful to know who has "Liked" a poem.
7.69% • 2 votes • It will have negative impact knowing who has "liked' a Poem.
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To Like or Not To Like (that may be question & a 1/2)

Layla
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Are you curious to know who has liked your work?
If yes.  How would that be helpful to you and your followers?
If the answer is No.  Why would your rather not know?

Share your thoughts on the subject?

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I selected Oblivious because I don't know if it will have a negative impact on DU - but I do think it could if people felt forced to "Like" something because their friends or other DU members would see if they didn't - and, well, D.R.A.M.A.  

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Drama?!
well no one admits to it, but secretely people love it lol
It's like that seasoning salt that everyone says its got msg but then they sprinkle on their food anyway cause it does make the food taste better :)

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Layla said:Drama?!
well no one admits to it, but secretely people love it lol
It's like that seasoning salt that everyone says its got msg but then they sprinkle on their food anyway cause it does make the food taste better :)




It can certainly liven the mundane 'taste buds'  up.  But, overseasoning ruins the recipe and palette!  

It all reminds me of facebook! "Why did you unfollow me?!"


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i cannot abide drama for drama's sake. i find it drains me of inspiration and is, ultimately, a time-sink for all involved - time that could be better used for reading/commenting/writing/growing. could just be me, since i've experienced enough drama in my life to last forever

i voted 'oblivious' - i'm just happy someone, somewhere, enjoyed what i had to offer

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I picked oblivious because I don’t believe we have to police everything here on DU, it also creates a mystery to the fellow poets and writers within this community so why
shatter it?

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I'm not quite sure how knowing will add to drama, in all honesty.  
It was bit of a joke up there in this thread mentioning on drama but I don't see much of a difference in knowing who has commented on poems and who has liked.  I follow 60 people, and sometimes I comment, sometimes I don't, sometimes I RL sometimes I don't.  
Same with like or completely opting out from all mentioned when I'm absent from the site for some days or weeks and I return, I feel I'm out of the loop.

Mystery factor I can accept mentioned by _BoyBrains.

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butters said:i voted 'oblivious' - i'm just happy someone, somewhere, enjoyed what i had to offer

^ ^ ^ THIS ^ ^ ^

poet Anonymous

Yes. Please don’t let people know who has liked their poems. LOL.

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butters said:i

i voted 'oblivious' - i'm just happy someone, somewhere, enjoyed what i had to offer


ditto  

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To like!
I'd love to know who has liked & shown appriciation for my poems.

This sounds like an amazing idea for a paid feature ^-^

The drama thing doesn't really make much sense to me, I like poems because I want to show the author & poem a little love, if we avoided site features because they could potentially cause drama then we might as well get rid of the reading lists and the follow lists. Imo

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Layla said:I'm not quite sure how knowing will add to drama, in all honesty.  
It was bit of a joke up there in this thread mentioning on drama but I don't see much of a difference in knowing who has commented on poems and who has liked.  I follow 60 people, and sometimes I comment, sometimes I don't, sometimes I RL sometimes I don't.  
Same with like or completely opting out from all mentioned when I'm absent from the site for some days or weeks and I return, I feel I'm out of the loop.

Mystery factor I can accept mentioned by _BoyBrains.


I don't know how much plainer I can get aside from saying that many members might feel obligated to "Like" a poem if it was public whether they actually did or not because they would be afraid of reprisal if they didn't "Like" it.  I think anonymous keeps it more honest. But that's just me citing what I feel might happen or how it could potentially start drama. I don't know that for a fact ( which I've stated ), but there is a potential for it, e.g. - peer pressure and all that stuff.

Look, it doesn't matter to me one way or another. I am not one who would feel pressured into "Liking" anything because the poet would be able to see whether or not I had/n't.  I feel I pretty much know who does and doesn't as much as I know who has and has not commented on any of my posts.  

I just love that people are participating in the polls!

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Ahavati said:

I don't know how much plainer I can get aside from saying that many members might feel obligated to "Like" a poem if it was public whether they actually did or not because they would be afraid of reprisal if they didn't "Like" it.  I think anonymous keeps it more honest. But that's just me citing what I feel might happen or how it could potentially start drama. I don't know that for a fact ( which I've stated ), but there is a potential for it, e.g. - peer pressure and all that stuff.

Look, it doesn't matter to me one way or another. I am not one who would feel pressured into "Liking" anything because the poet would be able to see whether or not I had/n't.  I feel I pretty much know who does and doesn't as much as I know who has and has not commented on any of my posts.  

I just love that people are participating in the polls!


Ok, yes, your explanation makes perfect sense as far as some may feel obligatory to show the host that they read/liked/acknowledged the poem.

And, most definitely it's enlightening to see the thoughts behind the votes.  I can see how most would rather keep it the way it is, oblivious but yet grateful that someone took the time to come to their page and 'like'.

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I voted oblivious 'cause i believe this one is alright at the moment for the place.

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cold_fusion said:I voted oblivious 'cause i believe this one is alright at the moment for the place.


Amen.  


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