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David_Macleod
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Maybe you or Layla could message one of the mods? :-))))))))

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David_Macleod said:Maybe you or Layla could message one of the mods? :-))))))))

Sure, I’m willing.  And if Layla is referring to a different gent, that would be two members the Mod could enlighten.🙂

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great - thank you :-))))))

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David_Macleod said:

I am sorry I misread Asperger's I would not be in favor of bans being dolled out to blocked people, Not at all.


Well noted, thank you for allowing me to explain my stand on the issue.

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Layla said:

Well noted, thank you for allowing me to explain my stand on the issue.


I really value your opinion and you made very valid points, Thank you :-)))

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Jade-Pandora said:

Thank you, Layla for reiterating your original point.  Because I am one of those, who the older gent you mention, who has blocked me - twice - and I love reading him.  I think, in both cases, he meant to unfollow me because each time I was writing more erotica than usual ( I go through phases).  If that were the case, I could still comment and RL his work.  But being blocked, I’m prevented from honoring him with what I enjoy reading of his.

I wish I could communicate that to him.

Jade


Oh Jade, you too?!  lol
Well that affirms the obvious problem but unfortunately i did get intouch with him about a  year ago through a mutual person to find out the exact cause of his blocking me and he expressed that he had misunderstood that blocking was unfollowing someone since he favored following handful of people inorder to give the proper attention required.
He apologized and removed the block on me, which lasted some months and then suddenly i found myself in the 'cell block' again
I don't know if its become habitual for him to use the feature but i've let it be, now i read him from a distance and will always enjoy his work but ...i can message a mod i suppose to rectify the situation, hopefully it helps.
and for the record i don't think i write erotica so i don't have a valid explaination besides the fact that he (as he shared in his pm) that he favors following handful of people.

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Of the 5 known who have blocked me here i am only aware of one as to the reason and intuitively to another reason why -- the others?  No way to know but suspect if's all linked and related.

Not a big deal to me.  I wasn't even following any of the poets anyways -- save for one.
& one i only discovered of the block via a friend here who asked me a question about why she couldn't follow a certain poet.  Sometimes, i suppose that's how we find out but still not a big deal...........right?

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I agree it's not a big deal when someone blocks you, we have to look at it as their LOSS :-)))))))

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If somebody blocks me I don’t really give a toss. These days, if you wanna leave my life, please allow me to hold the fucking door open for you and serenade you out to the tune of so long, farewell, auf wiedersehen, goodbye on the world’s smallest violin.

That aside...

In terms of feedback it’s annoying on FB when you just see nothing and there’s no indication that anyone has commented at all. So the conversation doesn’t flow which causes problems. I think I’d like to see the icon of the user come up and then a blank space. So at least you know the conversation will make sense a bit.

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Miss_Sub said:...

I think I’d like to see the icon of the user come up and then a blank space. So at least you know the conversation will make sense a bit.


This seems like the perfect solution Missy! 🙌✨

I'm in full support of this and improving the blocking function.

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Just a reminder that if things are getting really bad, or unbearable, or any degree that is making things on DU unpleasant please raise an issue/problem with the Moderators. We cannot guarantee it will be done instantly, but we promise we will not ignore it and will treat it with confidentiality and respect.

If the issue is small or light-hearted enough: the type where it is a falling out after a long time of being friends/nice to each other please try to have another willing member mediate between the involved members. Life is too short and poetry too expansive, for people to hold grudges and grievances over little things that have gotten out of hand when a bit of rejoining would go a long way to fixing it all.

Though again, if it is a big enough problem then do make the Mods aware of it. Even if we cannot make everyone happy families, we can at least try to set boundaries and spheres that never meet, rather than having someone decide that they continue as a member on DU anymore.
All in all just be nice to each other, and if it is something that you can ignore and doesn't harm anyone by being around and being ignored, just ignore it and get on with life rather than obsessing over the piddling stuff that gets you down but 'aint that big of deal really!

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I don't like the Facebook block system and think it would ruin truthful, open discussion here. Often when you don't like someone in life they're in your friendship circle and you have to just learn to figure it out. I hate that there's a place that completely allows a lack of open compromise and reasoning. It enables idiocy. Work through your problems, contact admin, ignore them, try not to antagonise people. Meh. Just my opinion.

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ImperfectedStone said:I don't like the Facebook block system and think it would ruin truthful, open discussion here. Often when you don't like someone in life they're in your friendship circle and you have to just learn to figure it out. I hate that there's a place that completely allows a lack of open compromise and reasoning. It enables idiocy. Work through your problems, contact admin, ignore them, try not to antagonize people. Meh. Just my opinion.

Actually, I like this.   I didn't care prior to reading this, but this is a great perspective.   Facebook should be the same.   Either you deal with the issue, or delete yourself.     Great idea.   No easy way out

I say no more blocking.  

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The great thing about a blocking system is that you don't have to use it if you do not want to

David_Macleod
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working through every problem is not possible or desirable. I think that facebook for once has it right. If you are dealing with a sex pest, a predator or a constant bully then with one click they disappear from the site completely. People can be scared and intimidated not everyone has the stomach for dealing with some people, not everyone is as strong as the "Just deal with it brigade". all social media has folks from all walks of life, many lonely and broken people use it, they need a shield from this kind of attention. I think the blocking function is very necessary for some people - put yourself in their shoes - empathy anyone?

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