I think thatís how you know itís the right image for you. You go through a process of trying different things until you donít have to think about it anymore because itís comfortable.
Definitely this for me. As I have said more times than I can remember, my profile picture is mostly always of myself and I keep the pictures uptodate. It's a "healing process" for me, for my mind after suffering for a long time with body image etc.
The longer I leave the same picture of me there, the better I am doing, the more comfortable I am.
It has been some time since I've hated what I see.
My picture at the moment is of me some months back, taking my sisters dog for a walk and leaning against a tree. The only filter is the natural light from the sky. It was only about a year ago, maybe a bit longer when I stopped using only filtered pictures.
My last relationship was physically and mentally abusive. It was 11 years before I got out, 2 years of him stalking me after, and 7 years before facing the "real world" again.
He would take pictures and videos of me, whether that was in the shower, during sex, dressed, whatever, all without my permission, he could never grasp the meaning of, no.
He would make me look at them. Every episode crippled my self confidence until it was destroyed.
I'm tenacious in all walks of my life, with the exception of my BDD. I have come a long way with it, even to the point of reading a few of my poems live.
I'm 59 now, and with age has come so much mental clarity. I have always attracted controlling humans. Even to this day, there are those who try to force themselves on me, in work, where I live (my street) There are men who have been asking me out for the past years and still do, the same men, even though I have said, no, too many times, and that speaks volumes to me about them. One told me only weeks ago, that he had been looking for me on dating sites. I don't do dating sites. I was sat on my doorstep with my sisters dog, he invaded my space and told me that.
I'am 100% happy with being single.
I have learnt that the more someone changes their pictures of themselves online, the more pictures they post of themselves etc, even famous people. It is not because they love themsleves, it's the complete opposite.