Borrowed from a friend of mine, who teaches writing courses:
“Words have always reflected culture. If the racist beliefs hadn’t been there, we wouldn’t have the phrases. We have racist words in our society precisely because racism exists in our society. There has always been a direct corollary.
Our particular focus now as writers needs to be on eliminating words that specifically harm the minority communities because those communities continue to experience heightened violence and discrimination.
Eliminating racist words from our writing won’t end systemic racism, but it will raise individual awareness as we as writers reflect on the terms we use. It will stop the propagation of painful stereotypes.”
Literal and actual complete bullshit. The context of the words needs to be understood, but eliminating them is stupid.
What will you call a nazi once you have decided the word is not acceptable?
What will you call fascism when you decide fascism isn’t acceptable, so ban the word?
Your friend may teach writing, but they don’t know shit.