To be a Dom person, is
to be a "good person".
The characteristics of a Dom are, someone who
is kind, caring, attentive, strong, assertive,
trustworthy and loving
To be all those things and not be loving is impossible
The sub IS loving, the sub can love the Dom.
To serve a Dom is not being in love it is being who you are, you are expressing your true nature "which can be of a loving nature. . You love your Dom, yes, but that should not be the basis of your service.
To serve out of love for the Dom you are denying yourself growth
To fall in love with someone then say "I love them I am going to submit sexually into a Dom/sub relationship because I love them and want to show them how much is not what Dom/sub is about.
To enter into a Dom/sub relationship then fall in love because they fulfill your desires that is not the Dom/sub relationship
To put love in the equation is not what the relationship is about the relationship is about you fulfilling your needs you meeting the desires that you demand of yourself to be happy and whole
You need to be the one in control of meeting those needs
For the sub the service or submission is who they are it's the flame inside that burns bright It is the responsibility of the sub to keep the flame lit
It is not the love
that is the emotion that comes from being
state of being
the meshing of two individuals the Yo,No
Not the act of hot sex
You can love your Dom and not be "in love" with them
That is the balance of Yo,No