I want to side with the folks who are nice to other people as a general thing. I can understand being a bit rude to make a point. Everybody is doing it these days.
In South Africa the violent crimes are very high because folks have all lost their humanity to trauma.
I like it better when fetishes center around pleasing, safe words and love.
The USA can be that again.
The South African point made here is a good point Edible
ACE's - adverse childhood experiences
Strong and persistent activation of the body’s stress response
systems (i.e., increases in heart rate, blood pressure, and
stress hormones such as cortisol and cytokines) can result in
the permanent disruption of brain circuits during the sensitive
periods in which they are maturing.
HOW STRESS AFFECTS THE BRAIN
, if the stress response is extreme and long-lasting, and buffering relationships are unavailable to the child, the result can be damaged, weakened systems and brain architecture, with lifelong repercussions