Those are very simplistic yet informative videos, particularly for those just starting out studying traits of narcissism ( which anyone who works on the internet should ). It's the introverted you have to be the most concerned with, i.e. - the one always complaining their childhood was worse than anyone else's, no one has suffered like they have, nothing that happens is ever their fault, etc. They appeal to people's sense of compassion, and draw them in via sympathy and sad stories, then hook them into a cycle of narcissistic fuel. The only way to break it is to completely ignore them no matter what they do, as any attention, positive or negative, serves as fuel. And if they can't get your positive attention, they will definitely go after your negative via attempts to destroy your relationships and reputation.
Which, takes us back to my former post in regards to addiction to such behaviour:
Outstanding reply and attached links Ahavati,
The world of narc behavior is somewhat like a movie (horror)
Once you realize what you are dealing with it takes total and complete respect and recognition of who you are to break free.
The addiction to the narc person or narc behavior puts you into a state of comatose, where you see your world as something not real, the delayed reaction and overall denial of what is real, is debilitating.
You tend to see the person with rose colored glasses, mainly because you don't want to, or don't have the inner strength (fear,lack of self) to face fact that the manipulation is controlling your every move, thought, and decision, the fact that you don't even see yourself as an individual.
You can't remember the last time you made a conscious decision that didn't involve the narc person and what they would feel.
" How do I feel, what do I think, how will this effect me"? These questions are always altered within the mind of the "victim"
"How do I feel? - well I fell like I need to make the bed, fluff the feathers, create a world of peace.
"What do I think"?- I think if everything was cush, no waves, then we will be happy, that's not so hard to do. If I make everything "as it should be" then...
"How will this affect me"?
I am happy when he is happy I am here to provide comfort in return, he will be happy, this is what is expected of me, my position, my place
The shame, guilt, and overall embarrassment of your situation creates another world inside the fake world that has been created which is outside of what is real.
You begin to stew with hate for the person for yourself it can overcome you and begin to spiral even further down into "hell" .
How to break free?
Which I have... Is a whole chapter in itself
A very inspiring although difficult one.