I’ve been lucky to only experience some real crazy stuff from my sisters baby-father.
Thinking about it all now I’m away from everything, I should have got out of that flat a lot sooner, and quit sticking up for my sister, as she was only playing us off against each other. Both lie to themselves, not only social services, and that’s what makes them really dangerous.
I regret not saying what I should have, all because of worrying about my safety; selfish in a way I know, as that wasn’t helping the girls when I had the chance, but they’ll soon see, and seek revenge if they want it. And I wouldn’t blame them.
To this day, I know neither of them would care how that day effected me on the estate, and to then find out he moved onto my baby-mother and started being around my son; I wanted to end it all. Total shock had set in, couldn’t eat and couldn’t sleep. Had to go doctors, and just cried as soon I tried talking.
As I’ve said/wrote many of times in my work, I could just get him when he’s an old man; beat the shit out of him at his most vulnerable like he did me, but I won’t. Just hope he dies a painful death. Did tell him though, I’m not a violent person, but if he hurt Tyler just to get to me...no matter the time, I would have got him. Thankfully nothing like that happened, and he mistook my baby-mother for my sister, but Seden’s got a bit more about her than my sister - she cares about her kids, and my sister doesn’t.
I’m too normally a private person, but I’d have put enough out there to ensure that no one is gonna fuck with me and make me out to be a liar, it’s only gonna come off worse for them. He found that out.
I miss my nieces and hope they’re ok.
Can’t speak much on what’s going on, as I don’t go round there anymore, but I do hope they’re shown more attention, rather than her dancing to shit tunes in the kitchen, completely oblivious to what they’re doing. Just insane that my sister can’t comprehend why her oldest daughter shouts and screams in her face - has only got it from her mother, when she’s asked a simple question.
As much as I can appear to be an asshole - I’ll say it again - only child out the three on drugs, yet haven’t had social services involved with Tyler. And Seden would sure agree with that. What does that tell you? lol
Anyways, I’m a lot stronger now and if ever I do see him out on the street, I’m not gonna engage at all. When you are put in that situation, getting away from it is key to your own sanity. Maybe in time you'll understand more about your sister's behaviour. I can't speak to that but perhaps it was her only way of coping, thinking she was holding her family together by staying with him. Remember what master manipulators these people are: he is perfectly well able to convince her that your presence or support (even liking you) was a bad thing. They like to isolate their 'pet' till they grow too bored and move on or go in the opposite direction onto full-blown violence against them.
The psychopath isolates and reduces the world of the person whose attentions they've trapped. Generally, money is one of the biggest controls; cause family rifts, control all spending, make sure it's almost impossible for their interest to run. It's a war of attrition.
My eldest son, by my first husband, escaped from the situation when he was 18, moving out to live with his girlfriend and her mother at the time. I'm glad he did; I was still too controlled to appreciate how the pscho hated me having someone who cared for me and I them. Basically, my son was a threat to his utter control of the situation and so he worked to create arguments and disruption between us by out and out lies, and I was too weak to be able to see through it all whilst trying to keep all of my children safe and in as stable, non-confrontational environment as possible. I'm happy to say I did manage to stay in contact with my older son after a period of time and we worked things out.
I'm glad you got away, I'm glad it made you stronger. If you have concerns about any of the involved children, you can always report them and give your reasons why. I don't know if you can report them confidentially, but ask for assurance that your name won't get passed on to the psycho. With improved knowledge and training in this issue, I'd like to believe they'd be using that as standard practise anyway.