Ms. Butters thank you for the support with your kind words and I wish i could speak about it in detail, but i can't. Blocking does not work! They get different phones, they make different ids.
Every characteristic that was mentioned here by you, umm, ahavati or others its true but I must empahsize couple of things. The biggest fear they have is rejection!
Everything they do, every manipulation, lie, mental games, the creeping in sweetly softly is to control and by controlling everything from the moment we wake up to the minute we sleep is to make sure our attention is for them, about them, to them and anything else its taken as rejection. For example, If you leave the room to get a glass of water and you're gone more than the customery lets say 2 min time to get a glass of water, then their minds start twisting, "why is she gone more than the necessary allotted time, she's bored with me, she doesn't want to be with me, does she have someone else, is she thinking about someone else"...etc and etc.
The simplest thing they will dwell upon and turn it into a fight to just see how far you will go to soothe their ego and to assure them they're still number one.
The harassment has subsided but hasn't gone away altogether, and I have to be honest, i'm very depressed and sad.hang in there, Layla; it does get better. :flowers:
one other point: that kind of behaviour is aimed at putting you constantly on the defensive, so you are unable to think ahead, think about the perpetrator's behaviour but are continually having to justify your own. It's often the case that the exact thing they are accusing you of reflects THEIR own actions, like infidelity, abuse, etc.... Because they are that way, they are suspicious of everyone. That or they are simply needful, for their own warped pleasure, to harrass you this way.
You are NOT responsible for their paranoia, their malaise; most of us who've been in the situation believed we could 'help' the person overcome some of their issues. It's what they play on. Discontinue as much contact with them as humanly possible. You are only responsible for your own well-being at this point. They may threaten suicide or other acts of self-harm. You don't need to respond to those. IF, and it's almost 100% sure they won't do any real damage to themselves (maybe something superficial to scare you), IF they harm themselves? That's between them and their doctor. You are not their psychiatrist, care-worker, or nurse. There's a freedom in denying them further influence on your mental and physical wellbeing.