I've been away for a bit, and I am saddened to come back to this. HF, I really do hope you will come back. Your comments and insights are so appreciated, and I always love seeing the little anonymous figure with the fedora on - that is how I know when you are on.
I agree with Madame, there are times when the ick is worse than others, but at the end of the day, there is a core group, a family if you will, that is loving and kind. Find them, stay close to them, and let the rest go.