When I spoke to the webmiss doing the podcast interview, she said something that has stuck with me. When people act out of sorts in anger, or frustration it’s a reflection of the hurt within themselves, and you need to ask yourself why they are acting this way. Therefore, I agree with the quote... to a point. Sometimes I think causing a storm is a necessary part of a journey to reach the apex of a lesson. I agree we are masters of our own destiny, but don’t agree it’s clear cut black and white.
Storms are necessary to bring attention to injustice; however, there are also those whose purpose is centered around themselves for self-attention ( or narcissistic supply ). Action does not cause discord but reaction
- a point I made just last night. Those who react negatively are not in the moment.
Webmiss is right. One of my favorite books ( which would benefit everyone ) is The Four Agreements
by don Miguel-Ruiz. The second Agreement, Don't take anything personally, acts as a measure of presence in the here and now. Simply, when we are reactive we are not in the moment, and when we are not in the moment, are susceptible to taking others actions as personal affronts. The bigger truth is nothing others do is because of us. It is their story of pain being projected based on distorted beliefs and limiting opinions.
Miguel-Ruiz describes this as “poison” and if it is taken personally, you take that poison in and it becomes yours. When we assume this poison is true, it becomes our poison or baggage. However, when we are grounded and centered, can see the projection for what it is, we are far less vulnerable to others projections. Miguel-Ruiz describes this as immunity in the center of hell; it is the 'gift' of this agreement. What would you cook for breakfast as a special treat to yourself?
Blueberry Cream Cheese Croissant casserole. It's divine and should only be eaten once a year!
The year is fast approaching a close - did you accomplish any of the goals you set at its beginning?