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Have I been a bad girl?

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Just had a message from someone who intended to vote for one of my nominations in the Poem of the Month thread - seems all of my nominations have been hidden/and/or removed?  I believe I had three nominations this month?

Have I been a bad girl?  Or am I just losing my mind that my poems were ever nominated this month?

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It's happened before and I thought I was just losing my mind, and I let it go for the sake of peace; however. . .this is no longer the case.  If mine are being removed/hidden - are anyone else's?

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Lemme have a look see

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lepperochan said:Lemme have a look see

I would appreciate that greatly.  I will message you with the titles, as all you see are anonymous avatars now.



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Thanks, you'll understand i had to hide your other half's post cos it named one

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lepperochan said:Thanks, you'll understand i had to hide your other half's post cos it named one

It named what, exactly?  Anytime someone's nomination is hidden there should be at least the courtesy of a message explaining why.

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named one of your poems on this thread. jesus lady, i'm to help here. if i didnt hide the post the poem would àve been disqualified. gimme a few minuites ill be back

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lepperochan said:named one of your poems on this thread. jesus lady, i'm to help here. if i didnt hide the post the poem would àve been disqualified. gimme a few minuites ill be back

I'm not attacking you so don't get defensive. I am simply asking for the sake of knowing the "rules" for when I nominate poems in the future.  

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lepperochan said:named one of your poems on this thread. jesus lady, i'm to help here. if i didnt hide the post the poem would àve been disqualified. gimme a few minuites ill be back

Can you quote where it violated the comp guidelines?

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I don’t wanna chip in here too much... but I’ve also noticed whoever nominated my poem is also missing from that thread. My poem has also gone.

Just saying.


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Here's some flowers

I am sorry I set the fire-    
burnt the house down      
after beating you with fists        
of untruth and innuendo ( again )        
       
I am sorry ( again )        
for accusing your innocent act      
of being a derogatory intent -      
I tend to make everything about myself      
when paranoia gets the best -      
especially when you make me angry ( again ).        
       
But, here! Here are some flowers      
to make it all better ( again )!        
I offer them publicly - with an apology        
in front of everyone, all our friends        
so they can see how sincere I am -      
they will forget my pattern      
of broken peace-promises again        
( and, again ),        
deeming me the better man!        
       
I promise ( yet again )        
I will not repeat negativity        
ever ( again ) - I promise!    
I will work toward the good!  
The positive! - I promise ( again ).      
Just accept these flowers      
despite the abuse you've endured      
and we can just start all over ( again )      
       
as though nothing ever happened -        
isn't that wonderful?!        
We can rebuild, together        
what I deliberately destroyed ( again )      
       
If you refuse these flowers        
this public gesture of manhood-        
then you're weak, small        
unforgiving-        
       
Because, you see      
I said I was sorry ( again )        
for additional havoc I caused        
in a moment of human weakness  
I openly admitted      
because you won't forgive        
       
So this is really your fault-        
you see? you're human too,        
despite living your life positively      
and happily oblivious of me-        
       
I watch your every move      
your every word; everything        
is secretly geared toward me      
       
You think I don't know        
but I do      
and, I can guarantee      
if you don't accept these flowers      
I spent so much time picking ( again )     
especially in front of everyone. . .      
       
there will be more combustion        
when I deem another innocent action      
is covertly about ME        
because YOU won't forgive ( again )        
       
Here's some flowers      
  won't you please accept?        
I promise this time  
   it will be different. . .( again )    
       
~        
       
I spent over a decade volunteering with a battered women's shelter after a four-year abusive relationship.  Sometimes counseling involved both parties, and these fuckers would say or do anything publicly to get the upper hand.  If you are suffering abuse, do not be lulled by public professions because of peer pressure. Allow people to think what they will, to choose sides if they want - it will prune your fields of frenemies.  Those who love and care for you will stand by you because they love and care for you. Those who don't will be revealed by their choice - is this not a blessing? It's one of the highest to me.        
       
Apologies lose their meaning when the abuser says “sorry” so often, yet the abuse does not stop.  Their behaviour does not match their words. If you are experiencing any type of abuse, you always have the right to refuse an apology. You always deserve to feel safe, happy and respected in every kind of relationship. Refusing an apology does not mean you have not forgiven - because forgiveness isn't about the OTHER person, but YOURSELF.  It's letting go and moving forward without allowing an abuser rent inside your head - not allowing them to occupy one single thought.        
       
The following quote is  wonderful mantra to live by"        
       
"Emotionally intelligent people are quick to forgive, but that doesn’t mean that they forget. Forgiveness requires letting go of what’s happened so that you can move on. It doesn’t mean you’ll give a wrongdoer another chance. Successful people are unwilling to be bogged down unnecessarily by others’ mistakes, so they let them go quickly and are assertive in protecting themselves from future harm."        
       
And by all means, if you are the victim of abuse, know the laws, know your emergency numbers, and reach out for help.  There are some wonderful domestic violence shelters and organizations that will help you overcome, and your future will be the better for it once you're empowered.      
     
Here's a great link: "But he gave me flowers"      
Ros Jeal describes how she is helping women stop themselves from being lured back into abusive relationships.      
     
https://www.hgi.org.uk/resources/delve-our-extensive-library/society-and-culture/%E2%80%9C-he-gave-me-flowers%E2%80%9D  
 
Meaningful emotional blackmail is a very good section.
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lepperochan said:Thanks, you'll understand i had to hide your other half's post cos it named one



I'm unsure how this nomination violated the competition guidelines. I don't see where it names anything of mine?  I am seriously attempting to understand how everyone who nominated my poems somehow violated guidelines enough for them to all be hidden.

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JohnnyBlaze said:

Can you quote where it violated the comp guidelines?







Its supposed to be annon?




Lady, it would appear you are correct. I do not have an answer as to why or who.  all i can do for now is reappear them on the basis some error has been made


If however it wasnt an error i'm positive you'll get some kind of explanation

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lepperochan said:


Its supposed to be annon?

Lady, it would appear you are correct. I do not have an answer as to why or who.  all i can do for now is reappear them on the basis some error has been made


If however it wasnt an error i'm positive you'll get some kind of explanation


Thank you. I would appreciate that. And I also think we need to restart voting or something - as this is obviously biased that poems have been hidden for non- guideline violations.

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It’s not biased. Mine is missing as well.

Although on the flip side not sure why some are missing and there is one poem there that has been nominated three times?

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Miss_Sub said:It’s not biased. Mine is missing as well.

Although on the flip side not sure why some are missing and there is one poem there that has been nominated three times?


No; it's biased in the sense that nominations have been hidden without guideline violations. Therefore, they're not eligible for voting when they should be.  Unless a nomination violates guidelines it should be listed.

I looked through the thread but didn't seen any poem listed three times.  

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