I believe I know who you are speaking of , regarding their critique...
And though I , personally did not like their style , it was your poem ,
and your thread , and I would most certainly not tread in your lair
or territory , to report another , as not only did I respect the way
you were able to deal with them , in an extremely intelligent , and
most positive way ( in a way I would not have been able to ) , it
would not have been my place to do so...
I agree , personal thread , personal decision...
However standing up for another , or speaking
in pm's is sometimes necessary to inform others
of what is going on , or has before , behind the scenes ;
This strengthens the site , not weakens it...
There are *many* factors to be considered in these
equations and possible situatiios , and just because
a few may feel it is wrong to communicate the way a
member acts , or has acted behind the scenes , does
not make those members right...;)
However , caution must be applied appropriately , which
is ultimately an individual decision ;
Best to you , Ahavati...
Fairness is a wonderful policy , though hard at times to follow ,
let alone applied with grace and intelligence !