is there a balance between bdsm and sexual harassment/assaul
I've experienced both.
I've both had consensual sex where I was tied down, gagged, choked, spanked, scratched until my back was red and near bleeding, bitten...
I've also been hollered at, groped, had people call me a slut, spreading rumors about having been with me, telling me I deserve to be raped...
And we can't forget that I've been drunk, held down, choked, and assaulted, then trapped on a boat with the man for over a week. (Trust me, I wish I could.)
Trust me. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE. There is definitely a balance to it.
Its all about consent, and trust.
I've both had consensual sex where I was tied down, gagged, choked, spanked, scratched until my back was red and near bleeding, bitten...
I've also been hollered at, groped, had people call me a slut, spreading rumors about having been with me, telling me I deserve to be raped...
And we can't forget that I've been drunk, held down, choked, and assaulted, then trapped on a boat with the man for over a week. (Trust me, I wish I could.)
Trust me. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE. There is definitely a balance to it.
Its all about consent, and trust.
It's BDSM as long as both parties consent to it. But as soon as one party says to stop, the other party must comply or it becomes assault. Also, its not BDSM as long as either party is inebriated or under the influence of mind-altering substances, because you cannot legally give consent at that point.
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all good and valid points. consensus leans towards the logical conclusion.
@Todski
I've thought about this whole respect business. the more I think about it the more I wonder what it is exactly. is it a feeing ? is it adhering to rules and regulations ?not heckling a person onstage?
is it not slapping grandad in the face to wake him up ...or would it depend on how old the perp what done the slapping was
what does it mean to 'pay respect'
what sanctions are applied when you (anyone in the audience) withdraw respect. in your experience how has it affected the person's life or well-being
I put it to you all respect is nothing but a false economy. can't be bought or sold. because it doesn't exist (yes, I've changed my position) ...or only exists in its negative state ie disrespect
@poetryman
I agree, the rules of engagement may make saints of us all. ..where would the fun be in that. sadly that particular ship left it's harbour already
I was thinking maybe your issue with BDSM could have stemmed from -based on a true story- type stuff. I can say with all honesty, having spent some time chatting to members of and reading about different communities. the community you refer to would eject any persons who displayed such behaviours
thank you, you're all beautiful
..yes, including you too
you're welcome
@Todski
I've thought about this whole respect business. the more I think about it the more I wonder what it is exactly. is it a feeing ? is it adhering to rules and regulations ?not heckling a person onstage?
is it not slapping grandad in the face to wake him up ...or would it depend on how old the perp what done the slapping was
what does it mean to 'pay respect'
what sanctions are applied when you (anyone in the audience) withdraw respect. in your experience how has it affected the person's life or well-being
I put it to you all respect is nothing but a false economy. can't be bought or sold. because it doesn't exist (yes, I've changed my position) ...or only exists in its negative state ie disrespect
@poetryman
I agree, the rules of engagement may make saints of us all. ..where would the fun be in that. sadly that particular ship left it's harbour already
I was thinking maybe your issue with BDSM could have stemmed from -based on a true story- type stuff. I can say with all honesty, having spent some time chatting to members of and reading about different communities. the community you refer to would eject any persons who displayed such behaviours
thank you, you're all beautiful
..yes, including you too
you're welcome
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RByron418 said:People don't live according to the fucking dictionary definition of things
They are helpful for communication and understanding concepts and stuff but that's about it. my cat and virtually all other animals don't live according to the dictionary definition of things so why should I.
(i. e., I agree with you)
They are helpful for communication and understanding concepts and stuff but that's about it. my cat and virtually all other animals don't live according to the dictionary definition of things so why should I.
(i. e., I agree with you)
LibraSoul96 said: As women we should take a stand and fight for our rights when it comes to freedom and how the temple (our bodies) are being treated.
my body is a synagogue
and I think most people should be mostly able to decide for themselves how they want their bodies to be treated. It seems counterproductive to decide what's acceptable for women as a whole solely based on what you personally approve of
my body is a synagogue
and I think most people should be mostly able to decide for themselves how they want their bodies to be treated. It seems counterproductive to decide what's acceptable for women as a whole solely based on what you personally approve of
