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Why?
My therapist once told me to stop asking why all the time.
For example, stop asking questions like “Why me? Why did this happen to me? Why…?”
Instead of asking why, I should ask what. “What am I going to do about it? What am I going to do to change this?”
At the moment when this was being told to me, I was in a hopeful moon, the complete opposite of what I am feeling. I thought it was an amazing idea to not ask why. To ask what instead.
Wonderful, how could I have not thought about it?
I will change my way of thought every time I am feeling sad.
I will be positive through the bad times.
But that times has come again & look me writing about being sad
I have dwelled so much in pain and sadness that being happy doesn't feel right.
I know this feeling so well that it feels weird not feeling like this.
Why, indeed, does this always happen to me?
Why have I grown used to this feeling?
Why do I feel like this?
Oh therapist...
For example, stop asking questions like “Why me? Why did this happen to me? Why…?”
Instead of asking why, I should ask what. “What am I going to do about it? What am I going to do to change this?”
At the moment when this was being told to me, I was in a hopeful moon, the complete opposite of what I am feeling. I thought it was an amazing idea to not ask why. To ask what instead.
Wonderful, how could I have not thought about it?
I will change my way of thought every time I am feeling sad.
I will be positive through the bad times.
But that times has come again & look me writing about being sad
I have dwelled so much in pain and sadness that being happy doesn't feel right.
I know this feeling so well that it feels weird not feeling like this.
Why, indeed, does this always happen to me?
Why have I grown used to this feeling?
Why do I feel like this?
Oh therapist...
Published 7th May 2015
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Anonymous
7th May 2015 9:52pm
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8th May 2015 3:29am
What do therapists know? Nothing... they constantly ask questions to deflect from that realization. There are questions you want answers to, problems you hope to find solutions to, meanwhile you get stuck in a time loop of deja Vu's all over again. Like I often say, c'est la vie... jj
8th May 2015 11:15am
I completely disagree with that therapist. "Why" is one of the most important questions we can ask ourselves. Once we start asking why and digging deep within ourselves, we can figure out what evokes specific reactions within us. From there, we can then evaluate whether or not our responses are healthy choices, determine what actions have been beneficial and not, and be encouraged to experiment with options that could perhaps work better. Self-reflection along with willingness to learn and desire to improve upon ourselves is, in my opinion, the key to having a happier, more fulfilling life. The next part is not fearing change and taking real action to implement it when necessary. And yeah, I do think a lot of getting to that realization often starts with "why". You need the "why to start thinking about the "what" let alone getting to it. I think the challenge is to not get stuck in the "why" when the "what" appears too overwhelming or hard.
