How many chances are too many?
Just curious, how many chances to you give people before you finally have to walk away? I used to believe in second chances but like the saying goes fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, however the past few months I find myself giving people that honestly do not deserve another chance period, chance after chance. I know that because I continue to do this the things that occur because of it are my fault, but it just got me thinking when is enough actually enough?
From personal experience on both sides of the topic, the mere pain of reading the title made me have to say this. There are truly evil people, and there are truly good people. Those that do wrong for no reason do not deserve any chances but someone who does wrong who can't help it is only human. Everyone makes mistakes but some people hate themselves until they die for not getting that chance to make it right, those people deserve that chance because no matter how much they do wrong it was never there intention to do such.
I'm my experience, it depends on what is being done over and over again. How does it make you feel? How strong is your bond with that person? Are you accepting them for themselves or are you wanting to change them? If somebody was hurting my child, there would be no second chance. Many factors play into giving people chances and yes everyone does make mistakes.
wingless42 said:From personal experience on both sides of the topic, the mere pain of reading the title made me have to say this. There are truly evil people, and there are truly good people. Those that do wrong for no reason do not deserve any chances but someone who does wrong who can't help it is only human. Everyone makes mistakes but some people hate themselves until they die for not getting that chance to make it right, those people deserve that chance because no matter how much they do wrong it was never there intention to do such.
Excellent opinion wingless
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Excellent opinion wingless
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Sure give another chance
Depending on the fall from grace committed
But always to be tainted in the eyes of the forgiver if only slightly
That what you had before will never be the same
If you can live through that
If love is still a worthy tool as a couple then sure forgive and move along together
But really depends on the crime by the partner as many love crimes spell disaster
And regret that you ever gave them another chance in the first instance
We live learn move on
Depending on the fall from grace committed
But always to be tainted in the eyes of the forgiver if only slightly
That what you had before will never be the same
If you can live through that
If love is still a worthy tool as a couple then sure forgive and move along together
But really depends on the crime by the partner as many love crimes spell disaster
And regret that you ever gave them another chance in the first instance
We live learn move on
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I genuinly think It depends on what the person has done in the first place. I've recently had to walk away from a family member that has been in my life for 30 years because she was toxic frankly, and dragging everybody down. I wonder how many chances I gave her over 30 years...
I think (and I largely think this is because of what I've been through) I've given people less and less chances as I've got older, but that could be a defence mechanism on my part.
I think (and I largely think this is because of what I've been through) I've given people less and less chances as I've got older, but that could be a defence mechanism on my part.
Honestly, it all depends on how long you can stay mad at them and if it's worth holding a grudge over them.
Me however I haven't gave too many people more than one chance because I believe that most of the time walking away is better.
Me however I haven't gave too many people more than one chance because I believe that most of the time walking away is better.
Jeeeez! Yeah..i fuck up considerably over and over.
I have needed tough love..for sure.
But i have also needed unconditional love from some..or would have been dead.
I give others as much..if they are deserving..i hope.
But one, for no one? And none?
I believe you get what you give..No one can read what is in someone's heart through first body languauge..
And the next time you need a second..
Remember that person that deserved one..you did not give one too.
There are shades of everything.
I have needed tough love..for sure.
But i have also needed unconditional love from some..or would have been dead.
I give others as much..if they are deserving..i hope.
But one, for no one? And none?
I believe you get what you give..No one can read what is in someone's heart through first body languauge..
And the next time you need a second..
Remember that person that deserved one..you did not give one too.
There are shades of everything.
