Cheating
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Women are nowhere near perfect. And not every woman is a 'strong, independent black woman', some of us are tiny, frail insecure creatures who are driven mad by this world. Driven so mad in not simply the ways of book. Hallucinations, suicide attempts, those are nothing. Those are the mad girl's norm, but what hurts the most is when she's cast so deeply under the spell of madness and the thirst to be desired and the hunger for self sabotage that she commits the one act which she will never forgive herself for: To cheat. And this isn't on a test or a cross fingered exam, this is on a man. A man who loves her more than anything in this world, a man who gets down on one knee just so he can have her and try to make her happy everyday. He wants to vanquish her sadness, to make her smile with his loving heart and Gemini goofiness, to play the song he wrote her so that she may drift to sleep in her nightmarish insomnia. He will stay awake and hold for her hours, watching her slumber to assure there are no signs of bad dreams. He loves her. He loves her. He loves her. And she cheats on him.
Women cheat. They do and they have no reason to. For this mad girl it wasn't for any emotional hole or any lack of satisfaction in bed. (Because trust me, this good man knows how to please). It was because of some strange manic thrill and a search for something she couldn't phrase. There was something missing in her, not the relationship. It was a little dysfunctional, but how can a love between two broken people not be?
...It hurt. The affair. Both emotionally and physically. She didn't care about the fuck, she was crying and simply played the part of a hole for injection. She wanted her fiancé, her soulmate, her puzzle piece. Not this. She only wanted an escape from reality. Not a strange man kissing her and telling her how pretty her eyes are. Those were his eyes. How pretty her 'pussy' was. That was his too. Everything she was was his, her good man's, but for a brief moment she was stolen property. So what really did she have of her own? She was a landslide...
This is why mad girls cheat. The world swallows them and they just run.
The good man knows (he actually figured it out as it was happening) and the mad girl is immediately forgiven, but not after scream after scream, sob after sob, death threat after death threat of anguish. He was ready to kill. A good man grew dark that day. And the mad girl was poised for exit. She had wilted the thing she loved the most.
Women are nowhere near perfect. And not every woman is a 'strong, independent black woman', some of us are tiny, frail insecure creatures who are driven mad by this world. Driven so mad in not simply the ways of book. Hallucinations, suicide attempts, those are nothing. Those are the mad girl's norm, but what hurts the most is when she's cast so deeply under the spell of madness and the thirst to be desired and the hunger for self sabotage that she commits the one act which she will never forgive herself for: To cheat. And this isn't on a test or a cross fingered exam, this is on a man. A man who loves her more than anything in this world, a man who gets down on one knee just so he can have her and try to make her happy everyday. He wants to vanquish her sadness, to make her smile with his loving heart and Gemini goofiness, to play the song he wrote her so that she may drift to sleep in her nightmarish insomnia. He will stay awake and hold for her hours, watching her slumber to assure there are no signs of bad dreams. He loves her. He loves her. He loves her. And she cheats on him.
Women cheat. They do and they have no reason to. For this mad girl it wasn't for any emotional hole or any lack of satisfaction in bed. (Because trust me, this good man knows how to please). It was because of some strange manic thrill and a search for something she couldn't phrase. There was something missing in her, not the relationship. It was a little dysfunctional, but how can a love between two broken people not be?
...It hurt. The affair. Both emotionally and physically. She didn't care about the fuck, she was crying and simply played the part of a hole for injection. She wanted her fiancé, her soulmate, her puzzle piece. Not this. She only wanted an escape from reality. Not a strange man kissing her and telling her how pretty her eyes are. Those were his eyes. How pretty her 'pussy' was. That was his too. Everything she was was his, her good man's, but for a brief moment she was stolen property. So what really did she have of her own? She was a landslide...
This is why mad girls cheat. The world swallows them and they just run.
The good man knows (he actually figured it out as it was happening) and the mad girl is immediately forgiven, but not after scream after scream, sob after sob, death threat after death threat of anguish. He was ready to kill. A good man grew dark that day. And the mad girl was poised for exit. She had wilted the thing she loved the most.
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mysteriouslady said: Anonymous said:<< post removed >>
Sarcasm is what makes world go 'round...
I think that would be gravity, not sarcasm or even love. Sarcasm just makes the ride with the other passengers more interesting and slightly more tolerable.
Though through the power of sarcasm some people's world have been turned upside down. Or was that love, or handstand, or sex in a zorb. I can't quite remember, seems they've got a bit mixed up.
Sarcasm is what makes world go 'round...
I think that would be gravity, not sarcasm or even love. Sarcasm just makes the ride with the other passengers more interesting and slightly more tolerable.
Though through the power of sarcasm some people's world have been turned upside down. Or was that love, or handstand, or sex in a zorb. I can't quite remember, seems they've got a bit mixed up.
Talking about sarcasm, I never saw the good of that. Its not even funny. I can be as sarcastic as the next person but it doesn't make me feel better or more superior than the target recipient. On cheating I think men do more of it than women...but its not unique to one gender. And I'm not merely talking about infidelity.
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Grace said:Talking about sarcasm, I never saw the good of that. Its not even funny.
awww...then I guess when you commented that my prose "I've got a big hole to dig" was funny, you were bring sarcastic?
No matter really.
Sarcasm isn't limited to poking fun at someone. It can be used many ways.
I'm gonna go jump on my mannequin now for a frisky, even though it's cheating. The pics will be all over the front page of "Kinky Love" porn spam magazine.
See? That's sarcasm. And I didn't hurt anyone.
Sarcasm per urban dictionary:
A tongue of which the user speaks of something the complete opposite of what the user means. It often has the best comedic value.
Ex. 1: "I'm okay. Don't mind the gaping wound and the sword protruding from my back. I'm fine. Feel like a million fucking bucks, dammit."
awww...then I guess when you commented that my prose "I've got a big hole to dig" was funny, you were bring sarcastic?
No matter really.
Sarcasm isn't limited to poking fun at someone. It can be used many ways. I'm gonna go jump on my mannequin now for a frisky, even though it's cheating. The pics will be all over the front page of "Kinky Love" porn spam magazine.
See? That's sarcasm. And I didn't hurt anyone.
Sarcasm per urban dictionary:
A tongue of which the user speaks of something the complete opposite of what the user means. It often has the best comedic value.
Ex. 1: "I'm okay. Don't mind the gaping wound and the sword protruding from my back. I'm fine. Feel like a million fucking bucks, dammit."
Anonymous
I've been reading on and off the opinions and the thoughts shared on this thread, so many thought provoking comments and it all comes down to the fact that it's not a happy place to be for the person (the cheater) or the persons involved (spouse or the other one).
True, that research indicates that men cheat more than women at least physically if not emotionally, or at times in the presence of both needs taking precedence. While women being more emotional creatures cheat emotionally more than physically.
It can be blamed on this or that, or he/she (misterss/ bf) luring the person in or that the spouse was not attentive, or any number of reasons to justify actions but the truth remains that it's about the cheater him/herself that their needs were the most important aspect and they can serve up the truth of their lives any way which they can.
Afterall, perspective is subjective.
And no three way circus can be objective.
There's the cheater's side of the story, the spouse's side of the story, the gf/bf's side of the story and then there's the audience (family, friends, coworkers, neighbors) observing the destruction, or fractures of a foundation crumbling.
But, the responsibility remains on the cheater to face facts that he/she put their own needs ahead of the persons (spouse or the other one) around them!
Basically, to sum it up in a more concise tone, they got to own up their shit and stop blaming people around them and then if they truly feel that their behavior was wrong and they cannot phantom the person they've become, then they need to grow the F'up and change their ways, what does it take to learn that one truly good person's love is enough to brighten their days 'till the end of days.
How much is enough..?
As the saying goes, how many people does it take to turn on the lightbulb in a cheater's head?!
Unless, they rather not see the writing on the wall, that a cheater is always a cheater...
Btw, nicely put Miki, loved every word you stated, bravo!
True, that research indicates that men cheat more than women at least physically if not emotionally, or at times in the presence of both needs taking precedence. While women being more emotional creatures cheat emotionally more than physically.
It can be blamed on this or that, or he/she (misterss/ bf) luring the person in or that the spouse was not attentive, or any number of reasons to justify actions but the truth remains that it's about the cheater him/herself that their needs were the most important aspect and they can serve up the truth of their lives any way which they can.
Afterall, perspective is subjective.
And no three way circus can be objective.
There's the cheater's side of the story, the spouse's side of the story, the gf/bf's side of the story and then there's the audience (family, friends, coworkers, neighbors) observing the destruction, or fractures of a foundation crumbling.
But, the responsibility remains on the cheater to face facts that he/she put their own needs ahead of the persons (spouse or the other one) around them!
Basically, to sum it up in a more concise tone, they got to own up their shit and stop blaming people around them and then if they truly feel that their behavior was wrong and they cannot phantom the person they've become, then they need to grow the F'up and change their ways, what does it take to learn that one truly good person's love is enough to brighten their days 'till the end of days.
How much is enough..?
As the saying goes, how many people does it take to turn on the lightbulb in a cheater's head?!
Unless, they rather not see the writing on the wall, that a cheater is always a cheater...
Btw, nicely put Miki, loved every word you stated, bravo!
Anonymous
Vee, I just clicked this thread and was reading your entry and thinking how well you stated all that and when I got to the bottom and saw my name and your message, I blinked a couple of times thinking it's the delirium of needing sleep as it was truly "my thoughts exactly" lol
Well put
Even odder though since I rarely read these threads and the only entry I read since my last post is yours
Well put
Even odder though since I rarely read these threads and the only entry I read since my last post is yours
Or along a similar line Vee:
You don't know what you have until its gone. - all cheating is reliant upon there already being one relationship to cheat on, and not everyone has even one.
I thought sarcasm, that one, the acerbic one not the untruth-for-comedic-effect one, was employed often to convey annoyance and disgust of a person or situation to a similar extent that spitting or physically assaulting would. A physcological or verbal assault rather than a physical one.
Can multiple personalities cheat? I mean can they cheat on the other person in their relationship, and cheat on each other? Probably have a better idea if I had seen 'Me, Myself and Irene'.
You don't know what you have until its gone. - all cheating is reliant upon there already being one relationship to cheat on, and not everyone has even one.
I thought sarcasm, that one, the acerbic one not the untruth-for-comedic-effect one, was employed often to convey annoyance and disgust of a person or situation to a similar extent that spitting or physically assaulting would. A physcological or verbal assault rather than a physical one.
Can multiple personalities cheat? I mean can they cheat on the other person in their relationship, and cheat on each other? Probably have a better idea if I had seen 'Me, Myself and Irene'.
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