Age is Just a Number?
llamalover7
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Do you think it's right for young people that are four or five years apart to date? Should it be controled by the government? How big can the gap between two people be? for example, is it wrong for a fourteen year old to be dating a nineteen year old?
goodest
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you pose a question that really has no answer to it
at what age should sex be available to pursue it
is it right for two 8 year olds
to privately discover this seductive gold
how about a 45 year old banker & a 19 year old on the scooter
they frown on older men but what about the cougar
its really a shame when you are a man
when your relationship is frowned upon in your own land
just because the girl is young
and they can tell lies but society doesnt care son
simply because they dont like old men swimming
in the passionate Love of these young women
so it must be the old women who rave & rant
tell me how many female preditors you know.....you probably cant
because the double standard says its ok
for boys to fuck & fuck & fuck their lives away
thats why the question has no answer & it never will
because you cant put an age limit on whats done by free will....
at what age should sex be available to pursue it
is it right for two 8 year olds
to privately discover this seductive gold
how about a 45 year old banker & a 19 year old on the scooter
they frown on older men but what about the cougar
its really a shame when you are a man
when your relationship is frowned upon in your own land
just because the girl is young
and they can tell lies but society doesnt care son
simply because they dont like old men swimming
in the passionate Love of these young women
so it must be the old women who rave & rant
tell me how many female preditors you know.....you probably cant
because the double standard says its ok
for boys to fuck & fuck & fuck their lives away
thats why the question has no answer & it never will
because you cant put an age limit on whats done by free will....
lepperochan
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kids date at four and five years old, boys hate girls at that age and vice versa.
reminds me of that god awful show toddlers and tiara's where parents dress their kids up like some miniature woman and show them off to crowds of people in order to claim some trophy.
kids, in my opinion should be let be kids and not turned into some half assed dream that the parents consider would be for the best.
true, the fact that Vatican city has a legal age of fourteen might not be sending out the right signals but we as people should be using common sense when it comes to these things.
I think that age gaps, big gaping gaps can be seen as either very sick or very lucky.
i think that once a person hits 18 he or she can pretty much date anyone the same age or older.
remember, on becoming 18 a person does not suddenly become enlightened to the world and still needs a watchful eye over them.
and the government should have no hand when it comes to these things. it should be primarily the parents who uphold and instill decent morals into their children.
reminds me of that god awful show toddlers and tiara's where parents dress their kids up like some miniature woman and show them off to crowds of people in order to claim some trophy.
kids, in my opinion should be let be kids and not turned into some half assed dream that the parents consider would be for the best.
true, the fact that Vatican city has a legal age of fourteen might not be sending out the right signals but we as people should be using common sense when it comes to these things.
I think that age gaps, big gaping gaps can be seen as either very sick or very lucky.
i think that once a person hits 18 he or she can pretty much date anyone the same age or older.
remember, on becoming 18 a person does not suddenly become enlightened to the world and still needs a watchful eye over them.
and the government should have no hand when it comes to these things. it should be primarily the parents who uphold and instill decent morals into their children.
SychophanticSlag
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I'm kind of a prude when it comes to this. My personal belief is that it doesn't matter as long as the two people are both legal age. Im really attracted to older people but I wouldn't date anyone who was older than seventeen and that's pushing it. I just don't feel comfortable with it. I think a lot of young kids are used by older young adults and it really disgusts me. I know you're not fully developed when you turn 18 but you are legally an adult so I guess that's that.
goodest
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but who is 18 legal by....who says that they, better than you, knows what you should be doing....what if you are 17 years 364 days old....does a day make that big a difference.....& im not talking about the legal side....im talking about reality....in a day does your mind make such a dramatic advance....
mjs211
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It depends on the age more than the age difference. A three-year gap between 14 and 17 is monumental and borderline pedophilia (despite how grown up 14-year-olds think they are), whereas a ten-year gap between 25 and 35 is not much at all.
goodest
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exactly.....14 & 17 year olds have more in common than 25 & 35 year olds.....or even 35 & 50 year olds.....personally, i have always liked older women & it was never frowned upon....lol
llamalover7
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llamalover7 said:[quote-65620-mjs211]It depends on the age more than the age difference. A three-year gap between 14 and 17 is monumental and borderline pedophilia (despite how grown up 14-year-olds think they are), whereas a ten-year gap between 25 and 35 is not much at all.
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jrthepoet
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Age is a number....But not JUST a number. It's a gauge of our maturity. In theory, of course, this is variable. That being said I believe there are legitimate cases where sometimes they will be four or five years apart. These people have a legitimate relationship, and could easily be stronger than two 19 year olds just foaming at the mouth to get married straight out of high school.
I believe maturity is a stronger factor, obviously, and I'm sure some will agree. But I think it should go a bit deeper than that. Rather than look at each individual person's age and maturity, we should be determining the overall maturity of the two together.
I believe maturity is a stronger factor, obviously, and I'm sure some will agree. But I think it should go a bit deeper than that. Rather than look at each individual person's age and maturity, we should be determining the overall maturity of the two together.
Anonymous
Age? Maturity? It's all a fine line. Can you have sex with a 14 year old just because she acts 18? Where does morality come into play? There maybe people younger who have dealt with more than me, does that make them more mature? Or just more capable to cope with things than me? Or, maybe their life is shit compared to mine, and I won't know their hardships, or pains. Does that make me any less empathetic? I have more questions than answers you see...Me and my wife are 7 years apart (we started dating when she was 18) She is now 21 and I am 28. Is there anything wrong with that? "laughs"
jrthepoet
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maikeru555 said:Age? Maturity? It's all a fine line. Can you have sex with a 14 year old just because she acts 18? Where does morality come into play? There maybe people younger who have dealt with more than me, does that make them more mature? Or just more capable to cope with things than me? Or, maybe their life is shit compared to mine, and I won't know their hardships, or pains. Does that make me any less empathetic? I have more questions than answers you see...Me and my wife are 7 years apart (we started dating when she was 18) She is now 21 and I am 28. Is there anything wrong with that? "laughs"
Now you're putting words in my mouth. I in no way justified having sex with a minor. Maturity isn't what age you act....ACTING is what age you act. Maturity is your mental capacity to understand the world and it's problems as they are around you at your brains most developed state.
If there was something wrong with you or your wife, then you wouldn't have actually brought it up would you have? Which leads me to believe that you two are fine the way you are. Mature enough to cope with each other. Which would make you in concurrence with me? Unless you're provoking arguments for argument's sake....
Now you're putting words in my mouth. I in no way justified having sex with a minor. Maturity isn't what age you act....ACTING is what age you act. Maturity is your mental capacity to understand the world and it's problems as they are around you at your brains most developed state.
If there was something wrong with you or your wife, then you wouldn't have actually brought it up would you have? Which leads me to believe that you two are fine the way you are. Mature enough to cope with each other. Which would make you in concurrence with me? Unless you're provoking arguments for argument's sake....
Anonymous
Nope, just mere curiosity at best. I like to indulge in defiance from time to time, but my aforementioned statements were in no regards a slight against you or anybody else in general. I am just wondering what other peoples thoughts are, much like the person who started this thread to begin with.
SychophanticSlag
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goodest said:but who is 18 legal by....who says that they, better than you, knows what you should be doing....what if you are 17 years 364 days old....does a day make that big a difference.....& im not talking about the legal side....im talking about reality....in a day does your mind make such a dramatic advance....
No it doesn't. However once someone becomes legal, who's really to stop them from dating who they want to date? An eighteen year old can date a thirty five year old and it may be wrong but no one can stop them. That was kind of my point when I mentioned the legal part of it.
No it doesn't. However once someone becomes legal, who's really to stop them from dating who they want to date? An eighteen year old can date a thirty five year old and it may be wrong but no one can stop them. That was kind of my point when I mentioned the legal part of it.